Why Millennials are cutting off their parents
Why Millennials are cutting off their parents
Millenials are cutting off their parents. I am talking about abuse and over protection in households.
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Families got their girls early marriage because the guy family got money without them caring if he is good or not,it painful n i feel used n betrayed
The way my mum use to beat me i dont even wNant to think about it
My mom has always been very abusive (psychologically and physically). Pushing 30 and mother of a 2 year old, I finally called her out on some of the things she does. I told her she’s hurt my feelings a lot and I used to cry myself to sleep. But I was accused of being too sensitive. She and my dad deep down don’t get along but my dad chose to hurt my feelings instead of hurting hers even tho he’s said to me again and again that he knows she’s been a horrible mom.
And yes I’m emotionally fcked up bcuz of her and I’m fighting my demons not to be like that to my son
Not African but can relate. When I was younger I would fantasize about buying my mother a house. I was told not to shedd my tears in front of certain people. My mother talks about her life before my siblings and I were born with much admiration.
This comment section and these videos are some of the greatest examples of why i think the majority of people are not fit to be parents. I sure as shit know I'm not. Children are not an extension of yourself. They are their own beings, and so few seem to truly understand that.
If parents are like this then imagine being raised by relatives because your parents died when you were young. That’s what I had to deal with
Too many African parents are pure evil.
At some point…I stepped outside of my childhood trauma and took accountability for my life…and the choices I make…it was an uphill battle for many years, even unto the point of self harm…then it just made sense to let that shyt go…I don't speak to my parents… and I no longer blame them for my shortcomings…I THINK I've overcome them… And I'm a totally different parent than mine were to me…..I say this to say…by the time we're 30 and up, leave that blame/excuses and take your life by the horns…
African parents are receiving their karma. No white Jesus can save them from the demonic activity of hurting an innocent child that they claimed they prayed for. Ase.
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Speechless is right.
For me it was the verbal abuse and shaming, the covert narcissism that fucked up my life for 3 decades. No more. I'm getting my things out of that house and I am free
I’m 42 black African American male and I’m just now learning who I am and living my own life. I had to awakened and walk away from my family
Sarah -Lynn didn't commit suicide. She overdosed on a drug bender with Bo Jack who sat back and let it happen. She died because of Bo Jack.
Lol 😂 bruh feel like all black moms are that horse talking to her son. You better be something great to make up for all the damage you've done.😂😂😂 OMG
Juxtapose this with the teenage pregnancy issue that refuses to go away. No one talks about it but I would imagine that it has problems like this. These kids have kids without even knowing what a parent is or even a sense of themselves. Very easy to recreate the Bojack problem
The unfortunate thing about the girl who was SA's was that I bel you years later when she reveals to her parents what happened, they'll act shocked and say, "why didn't you say anything to us" in the most concerned voice. We all know that they would not have believed her at first, asked a bunch of humiliating questions, it would have been a whole drama, the parents would have made it about themselves, and in the end she would have been fortunate if anyone thought to truly sit and console her.
Besides you Why is it only women saying this?
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As a parent, it blows my mind how well positive reinforcement works for my child. If I see them being tempted to do something that is not allowed (like playing with wires) and then turning away, I say "good job! I saw that you wanted to play with those wires but you didn't. That's good restraint." And it works so well. The kid feels happy that they were good and they clap and smile. Then they play with wires less. It blows my mind, because growing up people acted like good behavior only comes from punishment but honestly that is simply not true.
Hmmmmmm, may God help us all.
the fact that we have to keep these toxic people ruining our lives just because they are family. My heart goes out to everyone who has suffered through trauma thro african parents
I'm not sure if it is just an African thing but my life (and my cousin's life in kind) was a trophy game for my mother and her sister. I never had childhood experiences because I had to keep performing. In college i was going to school and had 2 jobs and one day I broke. After i got my associates, I stopped and just quit everything. She never let me live it down because her prize winner "quit on her". I've lost all drive, and even now, I just feel burnt out and im just coasting.
Keep making those type of videos cause they’re so relatable to me , the amount of verbal abuse I had to take from my parents was too much and I’m ready to walk out from my house as well
I'm super grateful we finally talking about this as a whole generation. My parents are African American. I raised the 4 kids behind me from the age of 9 to 20 when I moved out. Standards were kept high and whoopins regularly doled out to all of us for minor offenses. Love was literally conditional.
I'm currently 31 and no contract with my Ma over an argument about why I don't have children and how I'm going to regret not having kids. That 3 hour argument severed whatever ties I thought I had with her because it dawned on me she didn't know me and she just wanted me to have babies. Not kids. Babies for her to love on after YEARS of caretaking on my part of my own siblings. In this economy? In a Post Roe world? I hung up on her and we ain't spoke since June 2023.
Whether people agree or disagree please keep making these videos. Such topics are taboo but shouldn't be. We're better then this and children deserve better.
Thankfully, these adults are breaking the cycle of elder worship. Practice implementing boundaries and when they’re crossed, remove your presence. This will show that you will not be controlled by them.
I'm sorry thankful for these videos, because I sometimes feel alone experiencing these things with parents/ family.
This hurt my heart on so many levels. I hope they all get the healing that is needed.
So I wasnt the only one that went no contact…
Boomer parents are the worst, they got it good and want more. They always put themselves first.
I can't speak for all my melanated Americans but for me, I don't care what your title is…. If you're toxic you have no space in my life. Respect goes both ways and I will not tolerate anybody trying to dim my light or talking out of the side of their neck to me. Know your worth.
Am sorry to hear you guys go through that am new here and am talking to a girl from Nigeria and this is helping me understand you're culture and I would like in my life time to move out there too
For me,a lot of those families don't have an education to begin with so, there is no way they can understand
This makes my heart hurt..🙏🏿😥
god i just realised that I am a part of such a household like not that bad but like daaam