Why African Millennials mad at their parents.
Why African Millennials mad at their parents.
Discussing why African kids cutting off their parents, their experience when growing up , their toxic households, generational trauma and abuse. #africanparents #generationaltrauma #parenting
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Denying that violence is cultural prevents of from remedying the problem. We may dislike it but violence and the way it is used is and can be cultural. It sucks but such is reality.
Are you from Uganda? you have a unique accent 🙂
i am seeing a lot of this podcasts these days
people have to start asking why a lot of parents are like that
we need to delve deep into our mental health due to how the children are raised in AFRICA
we do not want to read or research so please start the research to find the whys, hows and whats
otherwise we disgrace ourselves here
please never generalise i did a good job so are many parents
some races also are abusive not only blacks
delve into
narcissistic personality disorder bipolar boarderline disorders
unprocessed trauma
I get that we’ve got abusive homes which is really sad and I’ll never support that.
Bruh! I don’t see anything wrong in disciplining ur kids.
So long as u tell ur child why u are disciplining them.
I feel like TikTok is making a lot of Africans soft.
Or maybe I am getting the whole conversation wrong
We also need to to talk about the Millennial and Gen Z new parents who will follow the footsteps of their toxic parents, There is absolutely no excuse as a parent in our generation to be emotionally oblivious and unaware when it comes to our children. Most 90s babies are in their childbearing eras. If it's one generation that knows pain and trauma, it is this one, so DON'T repeat things your toxic parents did.
I am gen-z; I grew up in a two-parent household in Kenya, that from the outside seemed very normal. But the truth is that my dad was a functioning alcoholic. He did do very well for himself and even put us in private schools, but he would drink almost every night, being tipsy in the evenings after work. I remember him being vocally abusive and even physically abusive towards me for small things. Now in my 20s, I have sworn that I will NEVER drink alcohol. I will not be that kind of person to my future children. I will never lay a hand on them. To this day, I resent him for things he's done and it's like he doesn't want to change, so I've just learnt to ignore him when he gets like that. It also helps that I am no longer financially dependent on him, so I don't have to put up with his BS.
Why don't you all Bunches of Ungrateful shut your, Jezabel Spirit all over parents never done enough,Find yourself on LGTB CIRCLE
This is beautiful. Thank you so much. As a white person in europe I feel very sorry for many younger black africans whom I personally know, who came to europe for a better life, but quite honestly have to spend such a substantial amount of their time to basically do unpaid therapy work over the internet for their parents, family and relatives in africa, because of the widespread denial and unawareness of mental health issues in africa, while essentially being traumatized themselves and having to primarily focus on getting an economically working life set up in europe, which is already hard enough and fully time consuming.
I stopped talking to my family for this reason. Child abuse is demonic but it's normalized in the Black community. You killed a child's spirit and there's a 99% chance he or she is screwed for the rest of their life. Even if they go to achieve much money and fame … their minds and souls will be rotten!
I am Haitian and my fathers anger issues has passed on to me. I’m very short tempered and I’m also impatient and that is something I see in my little brother as well and I need work on it. I see how generational trauma gets passed down
I'm African and i want to say…first of all it's not all african parents who are like this, all of this people were giving their own experiences…that doesn't mean its all african parents who are like this, i grow up in a upper middle class background with traditional African parents who not only loved me but deciplined me accordingly (yes, that ment sometimes wipping me with a belt or a stick )PROVERBS23:13-14 . You guys cannot say that African parents are "toxic" if you are only going to give your personal experiences and opinions..STOP GENERALLIZING !! and lets be more respectful to our parents
West indian
They said: honour thy father and mother. They ignored the next line: don’t vex the child. They vexed the child. Vex around, find out. My parents will die alone, and they earned it. They put EFFORT into that.
Try a Caribbean household it’s just as bad.
I am not African never been to Africa but I am a blk American and damn its pretty much the same here was born in 96 with Gen X parents. And they think beating your kids is the only form of discipline for children and don't bring up how they would beat you for nothing during childhood my mom wants us to stop talking and will literally try to shut us up or say it wasn't that bad. And dad is so unreasonable we pretty much just have to ignore him for peace.
When they come to America their kids turn out better than the American kids so maybe their style works. American soft parenting isn’t working out so well.
Millennials,Gen Z, Gen Alpha are in for a rude awakening And these new generations act like they invented fire You're parents weren't perfect Ok and
Beta 😂… Parents dont get pleasure by making you miserable. They are probably just doing what they think will protect you. Africa is becoming weak due to Western ideas.
This is what happened to me as a black American. I was abandoned at 16 as if I was an adult and told that I can't blame anyone but I jst wanted to heala and then when I admited what my step-dad did, I was further punished and told I could never come back. Now my bros can hang out but because I admitted what happened I am further punished for simply trying to heal and it's isolating and just sad.
generational trauma
My Nigerian father is an Amazing man am so grateful to God 😂 like what I told my dad I want to live in the uk and he said ok and he pays for my rent , food literally everything God bless him o. My lovely father 😍
I hear Africans believe themselves to be superior to black Americans, but what im hearing her sounds very familiar to what goes on in black Americans households. Children have no experience and no wisdom, yet they judge their parents from lack of understanding, i can't wait until you folks try the gentle parenting schtick and see where it gets you and your kids. My mother was as unforgiving as the world is and because of her i was prepared for it, granted my sister rebelled, all she got for her trouble was fatherless kids and a small income. Yall are lacking wisdom, and the only enemy you see is your parents because you lack wisdom.
Every one is angry with the parents as result of adopting the values of the West.
6:29 the avoidant attachment is unreal
This is such an important video brother 🙏🏿
It happens in all cultures, races, backgrounds etc. personally I worked for emotionally and sexually abused children at a facility for Catholic social services and you talking about heartbreak… I had to resign to keep my MENTAL HEALTH intact. #Grassisntalwaysgreenerontheotherside💯
I am 60years old…the thing that gets me even these days is how the abuse we experience is recalled with smiles pride. My mother beat me with brooms belts and my God the things she would say. I left home at 19. i found it hard to settle down as a adult. I had difficult relations with women. One word of perceived criticism and my temper would lead to me shoving her. But I learned about trauma and how it affects adult men. So it took time but I broke my cycle of violence years ago starting with my own children. And its so funny how People would suggest that because I spoke to my children gentle, hugged them every time they cried and refused to hit them they would grow out spoilt. They have grown to be two of the smartest kindest grown ups in my life and my very best friends.
From what i have seen in this video is a huge correlation between coming(genetically) from a west african country and getting beaten for anything.
In my family and from other people from the same place,this behavior of beating the kid up and not allowing kids to be themselves is not a thing at all rather if it ends up in a situation where you get beaten,it is always becouse after getting many many MANY chances you choose to continue with it.
Hey my fellow African bros and sisters.Im AA or just Black American and I tell you guys you are right and this practice is a spill over from colonizers and they've been brainwashed until Gen X rebeled and created rebel music and protests
You Millennials are such spoiled brats. I wish I could build a time machine, I would arrange for a Millennial to spend a day in the year 1984, a day in 1974, a day in 1964, and day in 1954 to see what Black people went through in those years, so in 2024 you can sit and complain about essentially nothing.
Change is a blessing!
Growing up without fathers is actually a new phenomenon in African American culture. It started in the later 1970s and 80s. I truly believe it was spearhead by the feminist movement rapid incarceration, and drugs. It's a rabbit hole I have gone down before 😢
Such an honor to listen this, thank you
I am an African American, but my favorite people are usually Africans who have moved to America. They are amazing people, but I have to say I hate the way African parents abuse their children by constantly asking them to send money. First, you were living off $150 a month, and now you need $600 a month? Family members badger them, asking for money. You are not their slaves, and it is your parents' responsibility to take care of you. They brought you into this world; it's not the other way around. If you create a human, you are responsible for that human.