What do you think about Women leaving their Careers for Family ?
What do you think about Women leaving their Careers for Family ?
What do you think about Women leaving their Careers for Family ? is an excerpt from a recently recorded clubhouse session. You can follow me on clubhouse @ampeculiar . This session is an interesting one that shines a spotlight on the fundamental issues we have within the black community. Enjoy and share with others.
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My career and financial growth is first and paramount before child rearing and family because I have realized men never play with their financial empowerment but want women to give up theirs .
We will grow together financially and build our family together . I will never give up my career for family so If a man isn’t ready to partner with me so we can both do this together then I’m not ready to spend my life with him.
Men will leave child rearing ,cooking and cleaning for a woman for years and then come around 20years later to tell the woman she hasn’t contributed nothing .
Every woman should have this deep conversation with her partner before they tie the knot .
Most men know nothing about domestic contribution and partnership .They will leave you in that marriage tired ,broke,worn out and without any finances to call your own because you will spend all your life breeding and raising kids while they grow and be financially empowered .
Have that conversation and know if that man will be a partner or patriarch .
A cousin's story right here. Wife had scholarship opportunities while husband refused to accept and support her. Long story short, wife became single mother doing very well in her career, and husband still living in his grandparents house, broke and now want ro join them abroad.
Why is it that like a woman you sacrifice to stay home with your kid's until a certain age then your partner invest and hides it away from you. Is that normal?
Is this club house ?
If Phrankleen is there I must check it out
With number of Mummy G.O and 'Daddy in the Lord', no way indoctrination would give room for critical thinking in Africa,Nigeria in particular. The irony is our ancestors before colonialism were critical in their thinking compared to Post colonialism and post independence. It's getting worse. These religious marauders are now going to the grassroots,villages, spreading their religiousity.
It ends in tears for a lot of women. But there are a few lucky ones who don't get disrespected or eventually put aside.
Thank you!
Your points as always hit the bull's eye.
Most men are a little apprehensive when it comes to raising children and even worse in the diaspora. Men should show willingness to learn in this regard.
So disingenuous and misleading. I like how you swapped the genders of that narrative to fit a female victim hood. The last time you shared that story it was male and now it was female. Stop pandering to women, you look foolish
There is nothing wrong with a woman leaving her career for her family and NOT leaving her career for her family. I think the most important thing is what outcome do you want? Working 40+ hours a week while catering to a family is hardwork and can be exhausting. The biggest lie women have been told is that you can have it all. Unfortunately you cant have it all. It sounds great in theory. However even men cant have it all. You can either spend time with your kids or commute for hours a week to get a pay check. You have to choose and choose early especially if you are a woman.
I would argue that women are less happier today when they put career first over family life. Women have reported less happiness each year every year since the 1970s (true research). A woman with career often hindes family life. The most happiest women are the ones with family and kids (again research is available on this). However, that doesn't mean its for everyone. We have a generation now that is very single, have no family of their own and struggling to find men to marry as they age, their prospects shrinks and they are unable to have kids and resulting to freezing their eggs to preserve what they have left. Nature is nature. Your priorities cannot and will not defeat biology.
Parenting is a two-person job: Mother and Father's.
Men look out for the means to support the family: they are the PROVIDERS.
Ideally, women should stay home and manage it.
Simple as that. Admit or not, most family dysfunctions we're experiencing nowadays stem from not aligning with this simple paradigm.
Also, add a good dose of good communication to work out family/marriage life.
Peace,
Here is my take, you are a women and you know you will have kids why can't you make plans.
If all is money, you can make money outside your career if you are smart enough.
A responsible husband, kind man and loving father that will leave to see and cater for his family does not exist. Redundancy happens, ill health happend, divorce happens, death happens…to name but a few. A mother should be in a position to cater for the children , so yes having a side hustle is the minimum , you own that to the kids. If hubby has the financial muscle, work part time
I never knew Phrankkeen was a feminist. Can he still deny he's not Westernized. Not much feminism in Lagos brother
I'm cool with running to mof with no makeup on. Presenting my petition before The Almighty. Not sure about the teeth gnashing tho. I will still glean knowledge and wisdom wherever I can.
Phrankleen your contribution was absolutely powerful. If only people new the power of critical thinking, they would be armed with making common sense decisions about their choice of life partners. !!!!!
I , my education, holidays, career came first. First child after 7 years and we raised her together. Whoever was available dropped her to school etc and cared for her. No big deal
I was working before I met my hubby and he fell in love with a working lady. He wouldn't even disrespect me by asking me to resign to look after the family! Can he pay me the salary I would give up?! Crazy idea in my view!
Only a senseless lady will pick a career over a family.
…Running to the Front of Mountain of Fire, nashing your teeth 🦷 with no make up on!! 🤡🤡🤡😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
It was a privilege to look after my children while I worked part time. I don't think it would have been possible without joint cooperation.
If couples can arrive at an amicable conclusion 99% of their problems will solved. Thanks.
Only women who lack born intelligence – common sense do that! Or those who knew that they were bought/brought in the household to be cleaners? Breeders etc.
And the same women will go on on social media, to friends , society crying about the man not wanting to provide enough when divorce happens.
Where is your dignity? Your job is your safe nest.. retirement plan. Your kids will grow and tend to themselves while you go around being bitter.
You know the US is having the Red Pill movement amongst black men. It seems like American women are too free because they are now making money.
New subie Frank. What do you make of the woman typically doing over 90% of the household work and parenting. Then works a paying job and contribute to household bills?
I'm risking my marriage because of me not wanting anymore children with my husband I want to be able to build a life for myself like getting a car, a job or career, traveling, enjoying life, healing myself kids isn't most important thing on my list
I'm American and my husband is Nigerian I got married when I was 21 and got pregnant soon after but hes pressuring me to have more children with him when I dont want anymore I don't even have anything going for myself to care for more children I hope he understands and doesn't divorce me
Women shouldn't be shamed because of the decision they make about their lives… whether she choose to get married or not… it's so annoying and frustrating.
Phrankleen you are the change this generation needs. You deserve my respect. Kudos brother!
Preach that TRUTH Mr. Phrankleen.
The problem we have nowadays is, most African WOMEN are afraid of speaking out. They always see the "marriage" as an ACHIEVEMENT. They are afraid to say NO to a decision that is not meant for them even if they see how their male partner is not that responsible type…….
Mr. Phrankleen, could you please have a Livestream on this topic including where people can call in on your YouTube channel?
Times are hard and life is getting expensive. Each parent has to do what’s necessary, even if the woman works nothing is wrong with that.
No woman should try it..Financial empowerment is vital for a woman and man likewise
Parenting isn't a woman job only, what is so wrong with a man dropping his own kids home or school? 😤