Tika Sumpter on What We Need to Teach Our Daughters About Sex
Tika Sumpter on What We Need to Teach Our Daughters About Sex
Inner Child Meets Modern Parent: Tika Sumpter on Doing Sex Ed Different
What kind of relationship with sex do we want young people to have? In this episode myself and Tika Sumpter, known for her multifaceted career as an actor and creator, explore this question as parents and as people reparenting themselves. In this episode Tika shares her…
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SONG OF SONGS 1
1 This is Solomon’s song of songs, more wonderful than any other.
Young Woman
2 Kiss me and kiss me again,
for your love is sweeter than wine.
3 How pleasing is your fragrance;
your name is like the spreading fragrance of scented oils.
No wonder all the young women love you!
4 Take me with you; come, let’s run!
The king has brought me into his bedroom.
Tika is absolutely GORGEOUS 😍😍
Late late bloomer. Heck I’m still trying to figure it out.
29:17 : that clear mission statement/intention around parenting–whew. yes!
This conversation hit home for me so much! It’s so difficult navigating intimacy in adulthood without being given the right tools in childhood development. More of these conversations please!!!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I loved this so much! Thank you for all that you have shared and continue to share with the world! I’ve learned so much and truly been inspired 🥹 you always facilitate the best conversations👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 and the production 🔥
Shan has matured 😢❤
Omg Tika you are not alone and i think this is why i have one child and is krazy over him to make sure im present in his life and he express his self. Which is very hard because my child is kinda opposite of me(unfortunately similar to dad- a mute)i speak up for myself and my child doesn't unless he gets mad.
There's a lot of shaming in the Black community particularly with daughters. Black girls get called fast for simply breathing. The focus is to not come home pregnant as a teen that parents make sex so taboo. Then at 30, you're supposed to be married and pregnant out of nowhere.
I got the sex talk as a preteen but it wasn't a two way conversation. I'm glad we're having better dialogue and being open and honest.
The first thing we need to teach our daughters about sex is to wait until we are married until we have sex. Fall in love with Christ first, then allow Christ to show you. How loved you are love yourself then you can love that man he sends you in that order. If Christ is not the foundation in your life, the relationship will work out.
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HELLO PRODUCTION!??!?!! This is such phenomenal quality. Not that that is a surprise. 💅🏽Also, I would give anything to drink a chai from Shan ❤
This is helpful. Like you watch others succeed then life happens to you & they throw the book at you.
I'm not sure "late bloomer" is a negative thing. It's kind of implied that way in this video, but I think we have to agree on the definition. In psychology, it refers to "someone whose talents and capabilities become apparent later than expected, often in a way that surprises those around them." What I believe Tika experienced was a lack of emotional availability, emotional intelligence, and just overall support from her family. She didn't receive good communication growing up or a safe space to openly express her feelings or curiosities.
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Tika had me cracking up 😂
Happy Monday. Very insightful show.. We as adults make things way more complicated than we have to and its usually handed down from our parents who had it handed down to them.. Even these titles we as adults live by it's used to separate us from one another and sometimes makes us seek things out in dark spaces that can be harmful.. Our parents are amazing and I always tell ppl learn who your parents were and are outside of parenthood..I gifted my parents with the comfortbilty in sharing their story with me without judgment and a overwhelming sense of compassion came over me and I felt this need to forgive them for everything..I walk in a freedom they couldn't and in watching me they are experiencing freedom their parents didn't have.. Blessings to you ms Shan and I just love ms Tika…💜💜💜
I’m already pressing the like button 5 minutes in I know I’m gonna enjoy this conversation, especially since I have a daughter who is about to be 14 , & me and learn about my body until I was in my 20s, great way to have conversations with our children and be open with them,thank you Shan and great guest
This podcast topic was much needed it showed me where i am as a person who is late bloomer and how to navigate as an adult who had no one. Thank you.
wow, i ihad a fiancee just exactly like Tika. Pretty, smart- just wouldn't talk- Socially inate. I broke that engagement off and I am so glad I did. Wish her the best.
As some one who works with kids, I found the resource regarding sexual development helpful!
This conversation is so wonderful and essential 🙌🏾
The amount of patience you have Shan is impressive. I love the way you allow your guests to speak until they're finished. It's so easy to interrupt someone in the moment when you can relate to something said, but you don't. You also have great ability to remember to come back to whatever it was you wanted to speak on. I'm learning from you!
I love Tika. I'm so happy for her.
It's sad to me that many black girls are raised this way. Many young girls weren't educated or communicated to AT ALL from their parents or guardians, instead Hollywood (movies, hip hop or porn) ends up being the teacher or worse the local Tyrone. Many young women even end up as single mothers because they are trusting of that 'first crush' who promises to be with you forever, nope…just a boy trying to get in your pants. You grow into an adult and are so far behind from your peers it starts to impact your confidence and the way you view yourself. This topic is SO SO important and I'm thankful for Tika speaking about this publicly and with you Shan. On a sidenote: I'm in love with your home lol.
As a fellow late-bloomer, this is such a valuable concersation.
I love this perspective and getting to hear a side that I feel so connected to
This was great! I would love to see you have a conversation with Emily Nagoski!
I get what tika saying I grew up in chruch and yess I learn about that in 4th grade
We need more convos like this. Emotional intelligence and maturity is something that’s lacking these days. Ty for that Shan. Preciate you.
My mom and dad now as an adult the try this i love u thing but it so foreign to me,so awkward i freeze and get tounge tied.currently there this guy that i really like and really likes me i cant even stop and talk to him becuz i was told stay away frm boy.now that im supposed to seek them at 25 i don't know how not to stay away 😢.its so fustrating cuz he's like talk to me basically i still act like a kid as an adult
I'm a Boomer with grown kids and I found this so healing and helpful even to me. As I evolve (don't loose hope on us!), I am learning that shame and fear hide in all these layers of years and years of not having the words or the spaces to talk about what we felt. Seeing you both look so clear and with such ease gives me so much hope for the future. Love your work, Shan! Thank you!
Thank you for this conversation. Because I need to be more gentle when it comes to my children around this. Because I'm the parent that say Stop that..
This is a great conversation. Also, choosing a partner who shares the need for healthy intimacy. Also, the need to parent a child(ren) with a foundation of healthy intimacy on all levels and dismiss generational misinformation.
I ❤ her
Love this conversation Shan! And Tika is gorgeous