Singleness EXPERT talks the Policing Of Black Women, Embracing Singlehood, Black Marriage +More-RLS
Singleness EXPERT talks the Policing Of Black Women, Embracing Singlehood, Black Marriage +More-RLS
On this episode of Real Love Scenario, Dre & Rhonda welcome Author, Sociologist and Demographer, Dr. Kris Marsh, to talk about her book, “The Love Jones Cohort: Single and Living Alone for the Black Middle Class.”
We also discuss her Real Love Scenario, how she wants to destigmatize being single and how to truly enjoy the non-romantic,…
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Thank you for this, I feel seen, I feel heard.
LOVE, LOVE, LOVE THIS CONVERSATION! ❤❤❤
Can we stop acting like women are the only ones with a biological clock. It’s offensive. Effective reproduction has time constraints, male or female. Yes some women’s reproduction decrease with age, men’s reproductive and sexual potency declines with age as well (around the same age).
Also, the older the man, the greater the incidence of having a child with developmental/psychological issues. If a clock exists, it’s a human clock, and not one biologically exclusive to women.
References:
1. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5299396/
2. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6993171/
Almost threw my phone at the tv when she brought up the discrimination against single people in the US tax structure.
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Yeah. The tax structure for singles is awful. It’s very discriminatory.
Right, let women be. Stop policing Black women. I agree.
I'm only just getting through the intro with the highlights and I'm already so intrigued and excited about this conversation!!
I was excited to watch this episode. It's the first video I watched for this channel.
I hate to admit that I was disappointed because I was so excited but, once more, Black Single parents are excluded.
I thought it was weird to say she is a "Singleness expert" who wrote a book about Singlehood, then spent half the show talking about marriage while simultaneously excluding SINGLE parents.
Then, DISSING families who are doing the hard work of raising children. No, we can't have the same discounts or whatever incentives families get for raising children.
And, no, Single Childless people do not contribute more to the country than an entire family.🤦🏾♀️
I actually felt like I had more in common with Dr. Kris than the married people she kept talking about.
As a Single Black Woman, our experiences will be very similar because of the systems we live under.
I have an older sister who is my best friend. I have a MBA and am VERY serious about education and academia. I live in Maryland, raised in Northern VA so I'm living in this same area.
And so many of her experiences mirrored my own, including being dressed like my sister for a long time. Even growing up with my 2 siblings. I have a younger brother.
And BECAUSE of our similarities as being a Black Single Woman, I wondered if I should purchase her book then expound upon it and write my own book for Single Parents because we are greatly stigmatized, especially Black Single Mothers.
I am, also, a writer.
This could have been such a better conversation. I even, heavily advocate for reparations, but, once more, Single Black Mothers, a HUGE part of the Black community and Single Parents, more specifically, the Single Mothers, are a HUGE part of America's nation who are tasked with raising our nation's future, were once more left out and…
DISCRIMINATED aginst.
I have mixed feelings because the information is useful but as a professor, who is in the field of education and educating our youth, the conversation surrounding TRUE Singlehood for everyone could have been so much better.
I feel like people constantly want to advocate for their group to be treated fairly while simultaneously demeaning and dismissing Single Parents.
Very disappointed.
This was an absolute pleasure to listen to.
Great conversation! Loved all of your energy!❤
This was so enlightening! 😊❤
It's interesting looking through these comments that many people who don't like what she's saying are men.
This is disturbing on so many levels. Singleness is not the answer. I will never understand why we put so much energy into lifting up things that do not improve us as a collective. I respect her accomplishments. Personally, my accomplishments mean more because I have someone to share them with throughout my life.
"NBut othing to do, no one to think about." How sad. First of all, the policing of my life in any capacity ended when I was 15. Well ahead of my time! That generation. I wanted freedom, the right to determine my own life. The situation is NOT good between the men and the women, particularly Black men and women for reasons any well read person knows about. Some are structural ; some are personal. But this discussion is not helping. Black women are as responsible for the breach as Black men. WHY? Because we're adults and we're accountable for our choices. IMHO. Spend some time on Tumbler with the Only Fans and the BBC vlogs. Apparently, they dont have anything to do or anyone to think about! My point: it takes two for better or worse. Im not for dating; Im not for marraige; I have no agenda except peace. Ive been single and happy; Ive been married and happy until I wasnt. So I left. We parted friends for the sake of our children. I married again and was happy till we werent. No children involved; no asset forfeiture. We too, parted friends. The common denominator: friendship. And equally imporatnt me with an education, a work ethic, good friends (men and women), a spiritual life and no possibility of holding me based on financial need or a lack of self regard. So heres what I'm for: detente. "To each her reach, and if its not mine to cop it's not mine to get." Would I marry again? Maybe. Maybe not. Carry on. But put down the guns, turn down the heat. Then maybe you can have a real conversation that is truly helpful to women and men struggling with relationship. Also, the nasty comments about women or men you consider less than, Professor or Lady Christian – SERIOUSLY. SMH. Talk with the fired President at Harvard about the absolute security of tenure. Your lack of humility is offputting and totally undermines your message.
Too much jumping around 😮
Single simply sleep around. Let's call it what it is. Nothing wrong with that.
Good info..some black females like being single plus want the freedom .There are issues with marriage or being single…each lady needs to decide
Y'all have to come with a better gas light tactic. Men are intimidated by these type of women were are just not attracted to them. Michelle threw shade at the black president of the united states arguably one of the most power men on the planet repeatedly she disrespected him in public. It's giving Amanda Seals with a PHD which equals insufferable
Very vibrant and intellectual conversation. You could tell Dr. Marsh passion exudes out in this interview. An almost excited energy coming thru and that def either attracts or repels. Friends do matter because they give a balanced perspective and another set of eyes to situations in ways you may not fully get in other relationships.
This is mental manipulation at its worst.
Her parents were married, throughout life she has chosen to sleep around, now at 50 the wall has led her to publish a book on misleading younger women?
You can tell it bothers her to have come to this age and have all those degrees, but still doesn’t know what it takes to make a relationship last.
The same way out of sleeping around and having no discipline with self control is the exact same reason retired p.ornstars pick up habits of heavy drugs.
All that fast talking she’s doing is a sign she’s suffering with silence when alone.
I bet you she’s sleeping with her students that why she’s still teaching
Im trying to understand her thought process, is she promoting being single and not desire marriage? Is she promoting just having situationships? I think conversations like this is why the black family is in the state of emergency that it is. I get being happy single, but what about discussing being single, getting emotionally healthy, financially stable, and love yourself to find the right partner for you, and marriage will come.
Polygamy is the answer
Unfortunately…the collective of BW right now don't desire to be married…there is nothing statistically or culturally that can dispute this ..I think this book will do well.
Anna Julia Cooper was a former slave who became my aunts teacher at Dunbar HS in Washington DC. My aunt graduated in the 1920s. I was so proud to see her featured on a page our passports.
It will alwys come back to Pookie.
Great conversation 😊
Such a good episode, loved every minute.
*heaving breathing before even watching the episode. I get it! Don’t feel bad because you’re single, it’s nothing wrong if you are, get your bag yada yada yada. I WANT to be married ‼️ period but I know I’m probably going to stay single and yes it’s ok but I’m NOT happy about it. I’m happy some of you are.
I am living validation of the topic discussed. At 69, I'm retired from a very enjoyable career, made financial decisions to allow me the luxury of travel, volunteered as a mentor, I keep active with yoga, hiking and kayaking. I appreciate your discussion and Dr. Marsh's book, I'm hoping that this can provide young women and men a view into another life option.
This was 🔥🔥🔥 Sure enough going to buy that book! No bootleg here.😂😂