Should Pre-Marital Medical Tests be made Compulsory? // SAY IT LIKE IT IS – Ep 103
Should Pre-Marital Medical Tests be made Compulsory? // SAY IT LIKE IT IS – Ep 103
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In these days its a MUST! Specially with people being trans, i have known a guy who committed suicide when he found out his fiance was born a man. When there's nothing to hide a person would go ahead and be tested.
Prevention is always better than cure
If someone doesn't have anything to hide, I don't see why they should object to tests pre-sexual contact. You don't even have to be planning to get married. The guy with sickle cell shouldn't have lied to his wife. She didn't make a fully informed decision to marry him.
I believe couples should get tested together before they even fall in love.
I think it should be. It is here in turkey 😊which i really think all other parts of the world should be.
It should be compulsory indeed. Before I got married, my husband and I went for premarital counselling at our church. Our pastors advised us to take all tests. It is one of the lessons. We both took tests- HIV, STDs etc. I took the one for Sickle Cell as we don’t have it in South Africa so I knew i didn’t have it but took the test.
When we got the results, we brought them in and showed them to each other. This is important indeed. 2 years of marriage and a healthy baby boy later 😀.
Hello from Chelmsford, UK 👋🏻
I was about to make my comment then read someone using style to insert a Transphobic comment here. Trans people are not interested in being killed, or have a a fetish for deception. It is usually amongst people who harbor some form of hate that these stories are common about a guy committing suicide because the woman he met in church used to be a man. Nothing about the person who committed suicide enjoying that type of woman but preferring for the relationship to be secret and the moment it was about to come out in the open or made public he committed suicide (in most cases the man kills the woman and we side with the man because he was "deceived").
Stories like these are very common in the United States military and it is a dangerous thing to normalize such views by not asking the person making the statement the questions that you should when according to the stats Trans people are being killed and a lot commit suicide. Do you care to guess the skin color of the Trans people who are the most victims of violence and suicide? Go volunteer at an LGBTQIA Shelter and see how many black kids have been dumped and abandoned by their families. Do you think that they want to trick Nigerian men into marriage just for the sake of it?
We need to do better and stop giving life to myths!
As for the original topic, if you can't be honest with each other then are you even in a relationship? But when a society makes marriage a must, the goal, then why wouldn't you have people going far and beyond to bend the rules to end up married? Same reason why we have lots of Gay or Bisexual men married to women in unhappy marriages. Testing won't solve anything, on the plus side it will delay some from hurrying into disaster. I still know those who church said marry and they did, didn't give a damn what tests said so yeaaaaaaaah!
Its important to be aware of anything that could negatively impact the couple. Yes, have the blood tests, and any other tests. Ask if any genetic disease in family. Important to know as this could affect the future kids.
If someone insists on not having any test done, its a red flag.
Its very advisable especially with t he AIDS scourge still out there.
Long story short….YES EVERYONE SHOULD HAVE PRE-MARITAL test and it should be MADE compulsory.
Another test that we African women should do is ALWAYS go for your smear test. As long as you are sexually active, go for your smear test to avoid cervical cancer because this is caused also by STD.
Some fertility issues can be fixed it’s not a reason to reject someone and people with sickle cell shouldn’t be outcasted
How can anybody lose their cool just because they have been told to do a blood test. I'm sorry no blood test no marriage, no sex. After my sister's useless husband gave her hepatitis B even though she was a virgin when they got married and then he had the audacity to say she was sleeping around. Please people be careful do not fall in love blindly and then pass on unnecessary diseases to innocent unborn children.
I think it should b must ooooo.
Hey Phrankleen, I missed the live streaming. I think we should also discuss issues such as marrying a narcissist…..
My take on the stories :
1)The lady who got infected – in this day and age she was dumb to enter matrimony without going through the basics (i.e sickle cell, std, hiv and even sperm count if she feel like knowking),
2) Second story – just like I said above, the man was perfectly in right to ask the lady. I am assuming he had done his own and willing to share the results.
Yes…should be a must oooo!!! People are wicked liars. Its better to check …3ce! Men hide low or no sperm counts….women hide the fact that their wombs are no more or damaged horribly… Even churchy people hide ooo. Its a strange generation.better be wise.A woman knew she had no womb and did not tell for 21 years in marriage. They were fasting praying and binding for 21 years? It came out and the dumb husband was in shock. .The first thing should be hospital visits instead of blaming the village witches. People have low consciences so don't be foolish.
Hi Phrank. I Love your channel.
Keep it up bro.
Believe me bro,now it advisable that couples must go for medical test to avoid every legal impediment to their union: every partner has the right to break a marital relationship if he or she enters the relationship without being told of known important issues by the other.
This could be illness,children from other relationships,major financial issues about the man,etc.
Health issues are legal impediments to marriage and must be declared if already known by any of the partners before the union.
So to avoid I know or I didn’t know?
Couples should make health test compulsory.
Doing tests is good but honesty and transparency is crucial. Many think If they tell the truth the other person would leave, when they do find out eventually they might also leave tho. People lie about their blood type but also some tests done previously in the past in Nigeria might be inaccurate better to do again than word of mouth. Someone having a child with sickle cell 2 AS parents is no joke and people need to know what they are getting themselves in. Honesty, trust and transparency so important for a lasting marriage.
I keep missing these live streams as I'm in Australia.
It should be Pre Relationship medical test. When you know you will be having sexual contact with the person, do all the tests first. That is how I was raised.
It's important to know, especially since you'll know how to handle it. There's nothing wrong with someone having a medical condition and that doesn't disqualify them as a partner for you as long as you work as a team and find a way forward. If someone can't do that with you, then they're not your life partner and it can save you both a lot of heartache. E.g. if a man has a low sperm count, he might need support changing his lifestyle to improve it or the couple may need to conceive through alternative measures e.g. artificial insemination.
Of course medical checkup is critical when planning to spend the rest of your life with someone. However, when not in a long term relationship and you are fond of having casual fun, its even more important to ensure you ask your significant other for regular sti check up in that state. You never know what people are carrying Medical check up can help save a lot of heart ache and long term problems.
Pre-Marital Testing is very important in any relationship. Deceit would always be exposed, which would end up ruining the relationship. Also important is staying faithful in the relationship. What’s the use of being given a clean bill at the start of the relationship, only to end up being infected later on? Lots of people have issues staying faithful. At least, protect yourself when out there and save your innocent partner the consequences of your choices.
Yes
Have you not heard of dj pope that slept 700 black girls knowing well he's HIV positive recently? A test is mandatory I'm sorry.
Oh yes is very important, I believe everyone has the right to know the health status of anyone they want to get married to, life has change no more living a life of ignorance, let's control together or no marriage SIMPLE
Yes it very important
The number of black ppl living with HIV and Hep B in the UK is so high, if u have ever had unprotected sex u need to be tested married or unmarried. I can't count the number of women that r HIV positive that don't disclose this to their husband or partner. They continue to av children after children so they r having unprotected sex.
Definitely compulsory for sickle cell and STDs. Unfortunately we Africans have the 'curse' of sickle cells which is embedded in our DNAs. Engagements and marriages have been broken due to mismatched genotypes and STDs. Hopefully science cures this curse of mismatched genotypes.