People Have A Lot Of Thoughts On What’s Considered A “Green Flag” When Meeting Someone New, And I’m Curious If You Agree
When you meet someone new, sometimes they do a particular thing that instantly makes you want to be friends with them. So when Reddit user OrbitingLlamas asked: “What’s a green flag in a person that makes you instantly like them?” people provided answers you may (or may not) agree with. Here’s what they said below.
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“When they come back to your story when you’ve been interrupted in a conversation.”
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“Kindness towards animals. Ability to carry on an intelligent conversation. Kindness towards others, not being judgmental.”
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“When they don’t constantly gossip about other people.”
“I’d even take it one further: if they actively praise others behind their back, especially when it’s a mutual friend or a peer (i.e. not someone’s ass their kissing), they’re building up it feels like: ‘Damn, they’re just looking for the best in everyone.'”
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“They wait for you while you tie your shoe laces…”
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“They are trying to make the world a better place. They care to some extent what others think. They are at least somewhat deep and not superficial — and probably the biggest thing: they are sincere. Someone could almost totally be the opposite of me in almost every belief they have, but if they are 100% sincere, I can still like them.”
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“They remember small details from our conversation that show that the person actually cares and is listening to you, not only waiting for his turn to talk.”
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“When they own a mistake.”
“THIS!!! Being able to admit when they’ve done something wrong and are genuinely remorseful for it/willing to be more mindful of it going forward. That’s the greenest flag I could think of!”
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“If they roll with/commit to your bits. Someone with the same sense of humor and playfulness always makes me happy.”
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“They criticize both sides of the coin, looking for facts and not confirmation. They don’t get angry or heated over this type of stuff. You can really have a good conversation with these types of people.”
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“If they hold the door open for me, or anybody else really.”
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“They don’t make you jump through hoops or something else like that for them to want to make you feel welcome. And they are sincere when they do, not this sort of generic sort of thing. They don’t make you feel secondary because you aren’t like them. They don’t humor you until they get bored. They actually listen and genuinely want to get to know you.”
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“When you tell them you’re struggling/having a bad day, and they first ask, ‘What do you need/how can I help you?’ without acting like they already know.”
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“They include you in group convos. Notice you haven’t spoken in a while, so they say your name and ask your opinion or whatever. Include everyone types is one of my go-to’s.”
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“When they are polite to strangers and servers.”
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And finally, “When they don’t take themselves too seriously and can laugh at themselves.”
Is there a green flag in a person that instantly makes you like them? Tell us what it is and why in the comments below.
