My Parents syphon my funds to cater for their favourite child

JUST SAY NO!!!!!I am in a similar situation. I have been in a family where my parents have always favoured my young sister even at my expense, these people would definitely step and climb on me in order to attend to my sisters wants. One time my mother actually told me (in her own words) to quit my Architectural job here at home in Zambia to go and park boxes in the USA and restart my life there so that by the time my sister is done with her high school she can have a good place to live at when they send her there for her University. I said no, I am 28 and soon will have a family of my own and my unquestionable loyalty lies with my unborn kids and future wife, why should I leave my job here to go and get humiliated in a foreign land just to fulfill their desires. I am done serving my sister at my expense and happiness

Your channel is therapy. Keep doing the good work. Now I'm certain I'm not crazy

My mother does the divide & rule . But now its backfired & she is old, lonely cos everyone found out the game . Its benefited her financially then.

Nepa visited you in Leeds 😂😂😂

I’m my mother’s only daughter but almost 40 years later, I can’t feel intimately connected to her. She’s always fighting for her 3 boys.

Hallo Mr Phrankleen, I am still waiting for Adron Home confirmation of payment.

Parents always do that but it’s going away with the new generation of young and exposed parents. I was a victim of this topic and it never stopped going on. I just don’t understand why I’ll love my kids differently. Equal love !!! I love all my kids regardless of their God given nature or achievements in life. The best reason I see in your topic is that stand out kid that speak up and don’t take nonsense will be hated or segregated.

I'm that unconventional child with what they consider a "deviant" mentality. I'm a first born and a complete photocopy of one of my parents but have a totally different personality and mindset. They say i'm hard to deal with because i stand my ground and speak up for myself. I cannot be bribed or manipulated any more. I told mine to give their inheritence to their other children. I don't care for it. I can build my own wealth.

Brother Phrankleen is fully relaxed and about to lay it all out. I love this side of you as well. 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🤗❤️💯

I personally do not want any inheritance that was manipulated from my siblings. I'd give it right back to the one that was misused/manipulated, or revert it to that sibling's child. But I wouldn't keep deceptive money especially from a brother or sister. That will cause and leave enmity long after the parents are gone, and your kids will continue the cycle.

I am guilty of this one son got thousands of dollars and when the other one very small amount…..but I got sense now and stopped.

That's exactly my story with both my mother and younger brother. She is purely a materialistic woman and she doesn't believe me when I say I don't have. In the past, my mother would use my money to cater for my younger brother's lazy and reckless lifestyle. When I found out, I spent nearly a year without sending money home. And, trust me, they survived. So, because of the blaming based on the fact that I was not looking after my mother, I resumed sending her a monthly allowance. However, this time I had to substantially cut down on the amount (4 times less than before). They are not happy about the new amount but I am happy with my decision.

Keeping it real Phrankleen ❤️

The favoritism and colorism problem is quite rife in all black communities!! The African Community did surprise me as you all didn't go through the whole slavery thing and didn't get ripped from your culture! I guess I underestimated! I don't know why its so difficult for Africans in particular need to talk about COLORISM, when we all know that it happens! I remember a naija woman calling me UGLY, while she was making much of a light skinned child, and had the nerve to be laughing at me along with the equally light skinned shop server, in Iceland, Peckham!

I've been told by some older women, that my hair is too "Native" when I don't wear a weave all the raasclaat time! Imagine!! These women are so ashamed of themselves, that they really believe that clapping some Mixed Race/European, will make them more beautiful, and will hold anyone to ransom who doesn't follow them! They always have to "mek" all the time, they can never be natural yet! As for the bleachers, too many black african men, have said the smell is horrid and one claimed he dumped a girlfriend because of the bad smell! Most of the ones who obsess over light skinned or "yellow paw paws" have trophyism as an issue and want children that they hope will look less african, just like Caribbeans get accused solely of as we are supposedly so brainwashed! Not all of us are though!

As for this favoritism and colorism thing in families again, too much of an issue… My mother has been hated on since forever, because she looks like my long dead grandmother(Caused by some kind weird jealousy/grief/guilt over something that no one will admit to), and petty jealousy over who grandma favoured apparently!! Fast forward many years gone past, and me as an adult, is getting nasty behaviour from a female and light skinned cousin- Her excuse? I look like grandma! Caused by badmindedness or whatever the hell it is, from most likely resentments from certain member/s-She(The cousin) didn't get to know our grandma, so why carry such resentment over those who look like her??

That is the messed up and petty level of one side of family! She thought also, that her "baby cousin", who can't seem to grow up in her eyes, would be black and ugly, compared to her very fair self who normally gets fawned over by the men of the community, because being "brown" is so much better than being black and ugly-When she and the people who but the thoughts of COLORISM in people's heads are very much as ugly as they claim others are!!! This is just the tip of the iceberg, there are so many things I could add to this whole colorism thing, its unreal! And favoritism.. Hmmm… The favourite ones are not always the most competent children and when the dumb parent is on his/her last legs, the one who got the most hated on is they one the call out of their mouths! Happened with my mother..She went through so much when my grandma died, and was a child when it happened,but no one supported her and has continued like that in adulthood! I've had strangers treat me better at times than my own family. I should never have had to feel that way at all!! Some favourited are justified, as they are the helper types normally and the others may be too self absorbed to even consider other people, even as the parent etc age.. There are too many levels to this alone that I could say!

Mine did exactly the same – Africans Eat their own as I always say ™️