My Parents syphon my funds to cater for their favourite child
My Parents syphon my funds to cater for their favourite child
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JUST SAY NO!!!!!I am in a similar situation. I have been in a family where my parents have always favoured my young sister even at my expense, these people would definitely step and climb on me in order to attend to my sisters wants. One time my mother actually told me (in her own words) to quit my Architectural job here at home in Zambia to go and park boxes in the USA and restart my life there so that by the time my sister is done with her high school she can have a good place to live at when they send her there for her University. I said no, I am 28 and soon will have a family of my own and my unquestionable loyalty lies with my unborn kids and future wife, why should I leave my job here to go and get humiliated in a foreign land just to fulfill their desires. I am done serving my sister at my expense and happiness
Hi phrankleen u black and proud with all the great melanin u have
Your channel is therapy. Keep doing the good work. Now I'm certain I'm not crazy
I think the sugar walls/ lack of them have made u sleepy.
My mother does the divide & rule . But now its backfired & she is old, lonely cos everyone found out the game . Its benefited her financially then.
yes !!! Learn to say NO. !! After all they don't like you even after u spend most of the money on them. Best solution get a family & good friends of your own. If you dont have , pray to good to bring good Pipo in your life , cos you dont have the power to do so. Lastly, be kind to humans around you, God will do some miracles. Have faith . Dont show these parents your frustrations. They will increase manipulating you.
Nepa visited you in Leeds 😂😂😂
Good morning phrankleen how are you and everyone
I’m my mother’s only daughter but almost 40 years later, I can’t feel intimately connected to her. She’s always fighting for her 3 boys.
Your on point bro, your on fire …nice one again job well done, very necessary discussions lol
Hallo Mr Phrankleen, I am still waiting for Adron Home confirmation of payment.
This is my mother in law Phrankleen she always sows a discord between my husband and his younger brother it got so bad in 2013 when mother in law came to Dublin the 2 of them joined hands and cursed my husband out. Everyone in the family knows the younger brother is her favorite it got worse when my father in law died. She was never happy when husband did something for himself or he made some kind of progress she prefers the younger one to progress she didn’t have relationships with any of my children but still when she came to Dublin I asked my son to give her money out of his summer job. I lost a son in 2017 and I thought that will kind of bring the family together and move on I tried my best to bring them together but what did I not hear what did I not see I was mocked and made fun of it’s so sad and disheartening for a family to be so disfunctional like that. It’s going over 3 years now my husband is not talking to his mum and his brother and to think we live close to each other in Dublin my children has no relationship with their cousins. But it’s amazing since we stopped talking to them my husband’s high blood pressure tablets had been reduced and am happy to say we have almost finished building our second house in Nigeria which would not have been possible if he is talking to his mum. Nothing my husband did came to success when he has relationships with his mother she kind of prefer to keep my husband’s head low and prefer the younger one on top. If it’s possible for her she would have swap their positions. And to think my husband brought his younger brother here. It’s a long story Phrankleen but thank God we are in a good place.
Parents always do that but it’s going away with the new generation of young and exposed parents. I was a victim of this topic and it never stopped going on. I just don’t understand why I’ll love my kids differently. Equal love !!! I love all my kids regardless of their God given nature or achievements in life. The best reason I see in your topic is that stand out kid that speak up and don’t take nonsense will be hated or segregated.
Yes am the non conformist but am labelled as a black sheep based on things they don't understand that is part of growing. My mum didn't deny her favourite child she even said it with her full chest. We could see it from when he was born. It has reflected in every way even when they die. So please live your life to the fullest you are God's child.
I'm that unconventional child with what they consider a "deviant" mentality. I'm a first born and a complete photocopy of one of my parents but have a totally different personality and mindset. They say i'm hard to deal with because i stand my ground and speak up for myself. I cannot be bribed or manipulated any more. I told mine to give their inheritence to their other children. I don't care for it. I can build my own wealth.
You are 120% correct! How come you know me so much???🤨
Brother Phrankleen is fully relaxed and about to lay it all out. I love this side of you as well. 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🤗❤️💯
Proudly black. I do my best to extend the narrative to my kids. Black is extremely beautiful 😍
I personally do not want any inheritance that was manipulated from my siblings. I'd give it right back to the one that was misused/manipulated, or revert it to that sibling's child. But I wouldn't keep deceptive money especially from a brother or sister. That will cause and leave enmity long after the parents are gone, and your kids will continue the cycle.
This last 15mons hit me. In my opinion agitation must continue for the liberation of independent Yoruba and Biafra nation we must continue to fight the system. I believe continued agitation freed slaves.
I am guilty of this one son got thousands of dollars and when the other one very small amount…..but I got sense now and stopped.
My mom played divide & conquer with her children so good my brothers actually believed my inheritance would be less.. Those silly boys. I’m the only girl they are still scratching their heads learning we got equal and my mom told me their bad intentions for me on her death bed. She was using manipulation to get money out of them by trashing me. She tried it with me too but I saw threw it and rejected her attempts which pissed her off more lol.. RIP Mom I love you!!!
That's exactly my story with both my mother and younger brother. She is purely a materialistic woman and she doesn't believe me when I say I don't have. In the past, my mother would use my money to cater for my younger brother's lazy and reckless lifestyle. When I found out, I spent nearly a year without sending money home. And, trust me, they survived. So, because of the blaming based on the fact that I was not looking after my mother, I resumed sending her a monthly allowance. However, this time I had to substantially cut down on the amount (4 times less than before). They are not happy about the new amount but I am happy with my decision.
Phrankleen…it seems like you’re in my family. My younger brother blatantly disrespected our older sister and my Mom pretty much supported him. Now his wife has taken it upon herself to disrespect my sister (even though I blame her for that). Me, emi san lori gan ni! Dem never born any aburo or aburo’s wife to ri mi fin! My mom now lives with that sister who is the one that deals with the physical and health challenges my mom has. But I digress. Family issues can be so complicated!
My mom that is on pension with all but one child meeting her financial needs abroad, said I should come and borrow her money so that she can borrow the elenu razor younger brother who happens to be the one who has not given a dime towards her upkeep!!! 😤can you imagine that? I was like you have got to be kidding me! Me that I’m using my hard earned money to take care of you and rightfully so (who else will I take care of?). She was willing to clean out her account to give him money but we the other siblings went ballistic saying, “…so who’s going to bail you out if you run into a financial emergency? You must not realize that we’re coughing out substantial amounts every month to make sure you’re well taken care of!” Meanwhile she supports the foolish boy and his wife when she should be knocking sense into their heads!
Keeping it real Phrankleen ❤️
Look-up narcissism all of this is covered. Truth-teller. Goldern child, scapegoat. They triangulate the kids. Gaslight the truth-teller…Most of the time it has nothing to do with religion. The scapegoat can be, the Christian or the lightest. It's about control…sometimes the whole extended family is involved. They are called agents or flying monkeys (Wizard of Oz) who carry news pretending to be the scapegoat/truth-tellers friend. You can go your whole life not even knowing what they're up to. They can pick any child as the golden child. Usually the under-dog. Check out Doctor Ramani – Youtube
The favoritism and colorism problem is quite rife in all black communities!! The African Community did surprise me as you all didn't go through the whole slavery thing and didn't get ripped from your culture! I guess I underestimated! I don't know why its so difficult for Africans in particular need to talk about COLORISM, when we all know that it happens! I remember a naija woman calling me UGLY, while she was making much of a light skinned child, and had the nerve to be laughing at me along with the equally light skinned shop server, in Iceland, Peckham!
I've been told by some older women, that my hair is too "Native" when I don't wear a weave all the raasclaat time! Imagine!! These women are so ashamed of themselves, that they really believe that clapping some Mixed Race/European, will make them more beautiful, and will hold anyone to ransom who doesn't follow them! They always have to "mek" all the time, they can never be natural yet! As for the bleachers, too many black african men, have said the smell is horrid and one claimed he dumped a girlfriend because of the bad smell! Most of the ones who obsess over light skinned or "yellow paw paws" have trophyism as an issue and want children that they hope will look less african, just like Caribbeans get accused solely of as we are supposedly so brainwashed! Not all of us are though!
As for this favoritism and colorism thing in families again, too much of an issue… My mother has been hated on since forever, because she looks like my long dead grandmother(Caused by some kind weird jealousy/grief/guilt over something that no one will admit to), and petty jealousy over who grandma favoured apparently!! Fast forward many years gone past, and me as an adult, is getting nasty behaviour from a female and light skinned cousin- Her excuse? I look like grandma! Caused by badmindedness or whatever the hell it is, from most likely resentments from certain member/s-She(The cousin) didn't get to know our grandma, so why carry such resentment over those who look like her??
That is the messed up and petty level of one side of family! She thought also, that her "baby cousin", who can't seem to grow up in her eyes, would be black and ugly, compared to her very fair self who normally gets fawned over by the men of the community, because being "brown" is so much better than being black and ugly-When she and the people who but the thoughts of COLORISM in people's heads are very much as ugly as they claim others are!!! This is just the tip of the iceberg, there are so many things I could add to this whole colorism thing, its unreal! And favoritism.. Hmmm… The favourite ones are not always the most competent children and when the dumb parent is on his/her last legs, the one who got the most hated on is they one the call out of their mouths! Happened with my mother..She went through so much when my grandma died, and was a child when it happened,but no one supported her and has continued like that in adulthood! I've had strangers treat me better at times than my own family. I should never have had to feel that way at all!! Some favourited are justified, as they are the helper types normally and the others may be too self absorbed to even consider other people, even as the parent etc age.. There are too many levels to this alone that I could say!
This is so true, i came from a family where, the first born , male, had always been the only favourite, my mother Will get resources from others in a very manipulative way ,to pass on to him, thank Goodness ,i left naija to united states, i have to truncate myself off, their trauma bonded family network. I grew up with too much in my mind and my other siblings
Its weakling when you have a Narcissistic African Mother, no one will understand and belief the emotional torture we went thru, because of the so called culture that we all got assimilated into.
I wish i can say more than this
Mine did exactly the same – Africans Eat their own as I always say ™️
This is what My Hubby goes through and now their feelings towards me have changed because I don't send money like that to him anymore. I am worried about my in-laws towards me.🇺🇸