Millennials And Gen Z Reaction To Gen X On No Contact With Their Parents – Must Watch
Millennials And Gen Z Reaction To Gen X On No Contact With Their Parents – Must Watch
Part 1 – https://youtu.be/X_vAtpMWqo4
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Wow this video explains a lot on the uprise of abused elderly in the care of a hospital or nursing home. Over the top elder abuse reporting coming out of hospitals and nursing homes. Maybe that's why you guys are pounding on the elderly and physically abusing them? If you don't like the elderly then please don't be working in the hospitals with them. They may have children off in the military or out of state and I fear for these people because you're going to project on them and be all kind of abusive to them or at the very least neglectful and hostile. The vibes I'm getting off of this video is disingenuous bitter and resentful. God help the elderly you take care of and God help your children. Scary you're in the medical field. I also noticed a huge uprise with CPS reports. Coming from this generation of those who hate their parents. Scary you people are scary.
No parent should have kids if they aren’t willing to treat their kids with respect despite conflicts. I’m not tolerating my mom or dad to rudely mistreat me any longer.
WOW! Aren't y'all tired of playing the victim? Or is it such a big a part of who you are, you just refuse to give it up? Read a lot of comments in here and nearly everyone here is 100% narcissist and sees themselves as a victim of some trauma they feel was unforgivable. Going no contact with the person who supposedly committed the offense my be understandable but going no contact with their entire families? That's where y'all lose me. To those who go no contact with their whole family and claim they're happier and it's for their mental health. You're full of crap,
You just want everyone to see you as a victim and feel sorry for you. In the vast majority of cases I'd bet the unforgivable offense was something most would say is nothing to get that upset about much less cut ties with someone over. Yet you, delicate little flower, decided to take massive offense over it. Y'all probably had/have loving parents and family, had a great childhood but decided being a victim was more important. Hope y'all pull your head out your butt some day a realize how much time you wasted away from your loved ones and what a dumbass you were for choosing victimhood and being miserable over time with people who love you. But, most of you won't because victimhood is all you have. It's who you are and will always be. Always the victim and always miserable. If I offended anyone, GOOD! Maybe you'll pull your head out your ass and stop being such a crybaby. And finally realize people aren't perfect, life is tough and acting like a petulant child as an adult is pathetic. DO BETTER!
I'm Gen x and I want no contact with my mother 12 years ago. it was one of the best things I did for my own mental health, and for the mental health of my daughter.
If you only knew how much I get criticized for not speaking to my mother….🤦🏽♀️
I more or less cut off my father, it is a long story, I was never physically abused but my father neglected me pretty much my entire life, when I was little he always favored my little sister, so much so my mother (and fyi, my parents divorced later so yeah..) told him that he needs to spend time with me too not just my little sister. And I don't feel like my father really gave me any attention until my little sister cut him off, cause he did not support us in our hobbies that really helped us grow as kids (he would just complain about the cost and having to drive everyday boohoo) but after that he would give me some attention but I feel like it was only because my little sister was not there and now he only had a child. But very quickly he got a new girlfriend after he had divorced my mum and he moved in with her (and so did I, every other two week I was there) I got a room next to my new step brothers, and there I sat in my room, alone with my dog for 99% of the time I was there unless at rare times we took a trip to the store, and if I went downstairs it was to eat or walk my dog or go to school. He and his girlfriend nagged me about wanting me to come downstairs more and he wanted ME to bond with HIS GIRLFRIEND even though that isn't my job, she and he needs to come to me not the other way around. Eventually I moved out cause I got a boyfriend, I lived with my mum for a while then me and my bf got our own place. And at that time I was starting to talk less and less to my dad, why? because well he didn't really contact me much so why should I contact him? Like I mentioned earlier in this comment my sister cut him off from her life which was very difficult for her, but she also had a worsening mental health (same though honestly just not as bad..) and at a certain point I tried to talk to him about his relationship with my sister because there was a time he didn't tell her happy birthday and that really pissed me off, first when I confronted him he avoided my questions and then when he finally answered properly he just deflected responsibility. I ignored him after that until he finally said happy birthday to my sister and sent her some money. Cause I know that even if my sister have a lot of hatred for our father, fears him even, I also know a part of her want contact and misses him and not getting a happy birthday message on your birthday from your own father is heartbreaking. There were also other stuff that caused me to grow distant from him, for one I grew up with him ALWAYS calling me a small weakling, in a teasing manner but it still hurt and I am still insecure about my look till this day partly due to his comments, although jokes still harmed me. He also blamed shit on my mum but took no blame himself, even though my mum is flawed she at the very least took responsibility once confronted and has improved a shit ton as a mother despite all the stress that is upon her with lack of money, my little sister's bad mental health, a difficult foster child, and her own bad health etc. And I think my father living his life with his new girlfriend and two new step sons while my sister and mother struggle pisses me off. He's tried calling me a few times but I've ignored him, and the texts he sends me at rare times get dry replies cause I don't want to be his little messenger anymore, I don't want to be the median, I do not want to be the plan b of the family or the therapist. F!ck you dad.
I guess this is where the pitty party is being held. No one is perfect, not parents or children. The world has become thin skinned and weak.
Glad I am on the back half of life, because what is coming is a very sad world. Stop looking back and work on forward motion.
The first person, I’m having a similar conversation with myself regarding my goals and who I want to become because I feel like I’m not being listened to, especially with my mother. I want to grow and blossom into a creativetechnical person with my own freedom but it feels like I’m being micromanaged ALL THE FUCKING TIME. I was able to grow this past week and plan accordingly for myself regarding a career path and jobs without my mother being around. And when she tried to micromanage me regarding me looking for jobs, my father defended me and stated that I applied to jobs for the past couple of days. She micromanaged me about my passport today and I had to be like, I’ve been tracking every week, I don’t control the time frame it comes in. I feel like I can never talk to without her bringing up spirituality especially when it comes to the current job market, fear of homelessness, etc. she thinks it’s internalized but in reality it’s acknowledgement of what’s going on around me. I feel like I can’t talk to her anymore because she wants to ignore the situations going on in the world, I can’t live in this type of delusional.
I’m going to leave my parents house and go low contact.
Honestly. I think it is both. The fact that some people distance themselves from parents legitimately, doesnt mean that there isnt a trend going on either. I have seen a lot of people (specially leftists), over react and scream rape/violence/racism at completely normal things or want to distance themselves from family members because said family member want to vote on Trump or republicans… and to be honest I was almost in that camp myself 8 years ago, so I have seen how effectively one can be affected, even when one isnt aware.
If a trend is going on, I do hope it end soon so that the people who are legitimately avoiding harmful parents will be taken seriously and not dragged through the mud.
9:42 "What was just last Tuesday for you, is a lifetime for someone who was born on Tuesday."
4:03 oh this was my marriage and why I left. I didn’t want to promote this sort of relationship to my own two sons anymore.
My parents have no concept of boundaries, so I literally moved to a country they cannot migrate to. Imagine being so suffocating that your child put an ocean, a language, and several countries between you, and they still do not get it. If I had known, I would have become an astronaut, opposed to a predestined doctor, so I could reside on a space station. They aren't horrible people, but they are horrible parents.
My mom did the work. She realized she was as not fostering a healthy relationship with her adult child. It’s so interesting because we sat with my grandmother as she was dying and my mom looked at me and said, “This could be us.” And she started crying. She did not have a great relationship with her mom. I am so happy she learned about boundaries and respect for your adult children. I use to dislike my mother a lot, and now she is one of my best friends.
Boomers can do better.
If you think about it… children born into toxic/narcissistic families are literally slaves to them.
My dad would say “why did you do that” when I would respond with “ I thought…” he would cut me off and say “WHO TOLD YOU, YOU COULD THINK”
Absolutely no boundaries. You have to say/ do/ think whatever they say when they say it or else you get yelled at, beat, or forced to do physical labor or torture like punishment.
Gen X here and i went no contact with my father at 10 and my mother on and off until 2016 when she died. Had to go no contact with my mother's ex and her kids as well as my sister in 2022. Never knew my grandparents. I have worked on my trauma since i was a teen. Had my first son at 20. I made many mistakes. Not the same mistakes as my mother and father but still mistakes that i can't undo. I've acknowledged them and am truly sorry about them and have gone through therapy for them and changed so i can be a better mother. I have 3 other kids that i have worked really hard to be a better parent for. My oldest just keeps rehashing everything i did wrong and is so jealous of his younger siblings. I am heartbroken and he refuses therapy. I continue to be here for him and just listen when needed because at this point idk what else to do. Nothing i do or say will change anything. He hasn't gone no contact with me. He has many times with his father though. He was young when his father and i went our separate ways and i never kept him away from his father and only encouraged him to have a relationship with him. I'm at a loss at this point.
It’s not just millennials and Gen Z going no contact.
''I just want to know what I did wrong''
Bet he told her countless times and she refused to hear it.
25:50 relatable. Same situation for me
To be honest , your parent can’t love and abuse you at the same time. That just don’t go togther. When I realize at 40 that my narcissistic mother had no emotional connection to me and when I truely saw her for the first time I didn’t know who she was. I realize everybody situation isn’t the same but For me, if your parents can abuse you and make you the black sheep ,that isn’t love.
Every single parent act like they don’t understand why we walked away from them. The forever victims
Who is the lady that is speaking at the 33:50 timestamp? The way that she explains things REALLY resonates with me! I have never heard it explained SO effectively. I am grateful to have seen this clip. Thank you.
Do you know whats the scariest thing? When abusive people read up on mental health and are sudden mental health experts. This is what Im dealing with right now with two members of my family and its incredibly tone deaf.
I cant wait to leave this house.
People who have baby fever don't seem to grasp the notion that they're raising adults with their own personalities and interests. They're only cute for a short amount of time.
My father went NC when I was a tween and I never rekindled the relationship. After 25 years my older sister started talking to him. She last saw him at 13 and she was 38 when she started talking again. She said she talked to him for 6 months and he never once asked her what the last 25 years of her life had been like. He only wanted to vent about our mother (who he divorced in the 90's) and how he was the biggest victim in the world. A month before he died he almost caused my sister to be swatted by police and a hospital psychiatrist finally diagnosed him with cluster B personality disorder which includes anti-social and narcissistic personality disorder. When I was a little kid I remembered thinking that I was far more mature than my father because he still had temper tantrums. I never loves him because I was afraid of him and his blow ups. He died alone. I firmly believe that I should not have been born but I'm here now. My favorite movie is Kung Fu Panda 2 with the famous line, "your story may not have had a happy beginning but that doesn't make you who you are. It is the rest of your story, who you choose to be."
Boo hoo. Everyone has their own trauma. Yes.. some worst than others. No parents are ever perfect snd have their own trauma and not realize it. Some can’t afford therapy. You didn’t grow up with no internet. If you decide to not talk. So be it. As long as your parents did the best to feed, cloth snd put a roof over your head until 18. You would have to deal with the imperfect life that the boomers and gen x had to endured. We don’t bitch and moan. We grow a pair and go through the trenches. It’s like wwii to us. No one gave us sympathy. You may start understand things better when you’ve reached 35 to 40’s.
I still deal with my mother, though its hard too sometimes. I have felt like cutting her off many times because of lack of responsibility for her emotions and lack of self control. I give her multiple chances, but each time she does something messed up, she breaks my trust with her even more. I do not trust he as much anymore. I still love her, but I do not trust her, especially when it comes to my feelings. Her mother was and still is very toxic which I why I barely call her. My Grandad wasn't the best either but he was more present than my grandmother. My biological father is serving jail time and he is a pedo (he did stuff to other children in my family) and his side of the family is very toxic. So, I rarely deal with them and thats why I stay to myself. I barely answer my father's phone calls because he disgusts me.
Honestly, it's because a lot of us lived in that time when "adults were always right" and "don't talk back to grownup"or when it's disrespectful to express your feelings, even in a respectful manner. But if course, many parents won't own up to that. Or will disguise it as I did my best. No, you could have did better.
I’m GenX (born in 70s) and I’m a little staggered to see my generation and the one before call this a trend and push back on it. Did you all forget? We saw the ‘ABC after school specials’ about terrible parents; ‘very special episodes’ of sitcoms involving children escaping from terrible parents; No Go And Tell, 1-800 chat lines for the latchkey kids, a plethora of daytime talk shows talking about terrible parents, the infamous case of Shawn Russ (an 11 year old who ‘divorced’ himself from his terrible parents so the people who were actually caring for him could adopt him), and former child stars emancipating themselves from parents who were stealing their earnings. This has been going on for longer than I’ve been alive. You’re just hearing about it more thanks to the internet.