Glad to know I'm not the only man who never got justice, I really fucking hope my abusers lost their job and are never allowed to work as a pediatric doctor ever again. (I was not SA'd by the way, just was ab*sed and now I have pretty bad PTSD from it.)
I remember running to the door to tell a police man only for him to pat my on the head and walk away laughing because my mother had gotten to him before me. So many times….
I am so sorry, also the cop saying “was she hot?” Is wildly inappropriate, doesnt matter if she was hot or not, rape and abuse is still rape and abuse. It doesn’t matter who or how it happens to someone, its still rape and abuse.
No amount of time should EVER give them immunity for harming/imposing themselves on a minor. This is why I didn’t come forward against the perps on my life because I just don’t want there to be a new avenue of trauma I have to bury deep. Shoot I tried to report SA when I was an adult and the detective did not believe me. It’s the worse pain to know the truth and basically told that your experience doesn’t matter/ is not valid.
Im terrified of going to court to prosecute my aunt who molested me in 2009. I never said a word about my abuse and kept it buried for years. The day I mentioned it to my family they didnt even react, and my uncle told me to take my post down from facebook. Why is it so hard?
When I was 9 or 10 years old a family member of mine had abused me and I had always thought it was my fault or I let it happen. But as I got older I understood so much more and the fact or what actually happened and how I got taken advantage of. Of course I told my mother when I was like 13, we got my family together but nothing really happened, I was young and scared and didn't want my family member to end up in jail so I told another half truth to distract people from what was going on. Blamed myself for a long time too. But then I see things like this and question was I wrong for distracting people from the truth even though they knew what happened after the fact anyway? Was that my fault too? Recently had to deal with seeing this family member at my mother's funeral and jesus fuk, it gurt so much taking pictures and acting like I was ok even though my family knew it bothered me and I didn't want him there. But either way, God bless and hold your head high bro. This country don't really do enough to rapists or pedos bro and it's messed up 💯 especially when it's family too
Yep this happens way too much here in Canada and its getting worse. Childrens aid society/ Child welfare is a business, Children make that business money and they treat children like part of a business. No matter if they hurt or mentally damaged children they are making money after all
I feel your pain. My actual mom was my main abuser and when i went to the police station for the police report as evidence in court, the officer said "I was reading this report and thinking damn this girl must really hate her parents". Nope i was abused sexually, physically, and emotionally 😢
"Was she hot" not gonna lie that made me really mad for you. If it was a women reporting that, it'd be handled differently. Men get attacked, taken advantage of, SA'ed too and this response is exactly why they don't report it. Shame on the cops in this scenario!
This happened to me. I unloaded to a counselor after being abused by a boyfriend and she saw bruises. I told her about being raped when I was 13. I was 17 at the time and it was reported. I had to go to court, see him there and tell every detail. He walked out without any repercussions. I feel you man. Hugs.
I'm sorry that this happened to you and that you were revictimized by the system of toxic masculinity. As a man, you're expected to protect yourself and people seem to forget you started out as a vulnerable boy.
I think one key to healing is understanding and establishing healthy boundaries with others and yourself.
When someone violates you repeatedly, you dont develop or you lose a sense of healthy boundaries. This includes how you treat yourself and the limits you set.
It puts you in a position where you're more comfortable in uncomfortable situations where you're jist used to letting people treat you in ways you dont want to be treated. Resentment develops. Emotions can become hard to manage.
The moment you start asserting yourself, setting and maintaining boundaries, you take your power back. As a child, you may have been powerless against an abusive adult. Take it back by protecting yoir energy.
I feel for you brother man. I am also from Oxnard CA. That was 29 years ago. I used to live off Lakehurst. Your past does not define you. You are not alone and never will be.
I was sexually assaulted by a friend of mine while i was having a POTS episode, barely conscious. He took advantage of me.
Ive talked to my family, therapist, damn even the police, nothing. Because it wasnt full on r@pe it doesnt count apparently. Disgusting laws.
Holy crap that cop should be fired.
I'm so sorry that happened 😔
I say this having been SAd when i was 9. No ones coming to help, no one is going to or can save u
Sorry about that bro
Bruv image what she did with his d
Glad to know I'm not the only man who never got justice, I really fucking hope my abusers lost their job and are never allowed to work as a pediatric doctor ever again. (I was not SA'd by the way, just was ab*sed and now I have pretty bad PTSD from it.)
Cops are NOT here to help you. They steal money and extort the working class. Thats it!
I remember running to the door to tell a police man only for him to pat my on the head and walk away laughing because my mother had gotten to him before me. So many times….
I am so sorry, also the cop saying “was she hot?” Is wildly inappropriate, doesnt matter if she was hot or not, rape and abuse is still rape and abuse. It doesn’t matter who or how it happens to someone, its still rape and abuse.
thats what being a man is about. no one cares, no ones gonna save you.. when it really comes down to it and shit hits the fan, youre on your own
Horrible you can't do anything about it
You’re making us all look soft by this. Roll with the punches bro adapt and fucking overcome. There’s somebody out there that has it worse than us.
No amount of time should EVER give them immunity for harming/imposing themselves on a minor. This is why I didn’t come forward against the perps on my life because I just don’t want there to be a new avenue of trauma I have to bury deep. Shoot I tried to report SA when I was an adult and the detective did not believe me. It’s the worse pain to know the truth and basically told that your experience doesn’t matter/ is not valid.
…smh
Im terrified of going to court to prosecute my aunt who molested me in 2009. I never said a word about my abuse and kept it buried for years. The day I mentioned it to my family they didnt even react, and my uncle told me to take my post down from facebook. Why is it so hard?
When I was 9 or 10 years old a family member of mine had abused me and I had always thought it was my fault or I let it happen. But as I got older I understood so much more and the fact or what actually happened and how I got taken advantage of. Of course I told my mother when I was like 13, we got my family together but nothing really happened, I was young and scared and didn't want my family member to end up in jail so I told another half truth to distract people from what was going on. Blamed myself for a long time too. But then I see things like this and question was I wrong for distracting people from the truth even though they knew what happened after the fact anyway? Was that my fault too? Recently had to deal with seeing this family member at my mother's funeral and jesus fuk, it gurt so much taking pictures and acting like I was ok even though my family knew it bothered me and I didn't want him there. But either way, God bless and hold your head high bro. This country don't really do enough to rapists or pedos bro and it's messed up 💯 especially when it's family too
Yep this happens way too much here in Canada and its getting worse. Childrens aid society/ Child welfare is a business, Children make that business money and they treat children like part of a business. No matter if they hurt or mentally damaged children they are making money after all
This is so painfull to see a short about, cus I know that this is so true, for guys.
I my self was ignorant once, till I got reminded, it is painful not being believed, worse it someone ask if the guy had been handsome, doh….
I really wish you all the best, and that you may live a life filled with rejoice and can be glad in it.
I wish light and goodness sent towards you and your love ones.
I wish you love, understanding, satisfaction, happiness, joy and redemption.
Kingdom – Iniko 🎶
South Park cop: Nice!
Yeah that's the typical response.
Gross injustice! Predators are predators. Thank you for sharing your story.
I dont think the police would ask u if she were hot, you are a lier
There should be charges filed against the cops and DA for not enforcing the law.
I feel your pain. My actual mom was my main abuser and when i went to the police station for the police report as evidence in court, the officer said "I was reading this report and thinking damn this girl must really hate her parents". Nope i was abused sexually, physically, and emotionally 😢
"Was she hot?" OMG @#$!?!& What the fresh hell? &$$#&!!!
Reasons why i hate foster care
you are not your experiences.
Life’s a fight, keep swingin lol
Mental health is a privilege only women get to enjoy 😢
"Was she hot" not gonna lie that made me really mad for you. If it was a women reporting that, it'd be handled differently. Men get attacked, taken advantage of, SA'ed too and this response is exactly why they don't report it. Shame on the cops in this scenario!
This happened to me. I unloaded to a counselor after being abused by a boyfriend and she saw bruises. I told her about being raped when I was 13. I was 17 at the time and it was reported. I had to go to court, see him there and tell every detail. He walked out without any repercussions. I feel you man. Hugs.
I'm sorry that this happened to you and that you were revictimized by the system of toxic masculinity. As a man, you're expected to protect yourself and people seem to forget you started out as a vulnerable boy.
I think one key to healing is understanding and establishing healthy boundaries with others and yourself.
When someone violates you repeatedly, you dont develop or you lose a sense of healthy boundaries. This includes how you treat yourself and the limits you set.
It puts you in a position where you're more comfortable in uncomfortable situations where you're jist used to letting people treat you in ways you dont want to be treated. Resentment develops. Emotions can become hard to manage.
The moment you start asserting yourself, setting and maintaining boundaries, you take your power back. As a child, you may have been powerless against an abusive adult. Take it back by protecting yoir energy.
I hope you're okay.
I feel for you brother man. I am also from Oxnard CA. That was 29 years ago. I used to live off Lakehurst. Your past does not define you. You are not alone and never will be.
stay strong brother