He earns £500 / Day but won’t give me and my Parents // SAY IT LIKE IT IS – Ep 67
He earns £500 / Day but won’t give me and my Parents // SAY IT LIKE IT IS – Ep 67
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You touched the point again. Thanks.
Hi, I guess the wife feels too dependant on her husband. He does many good things ( for her aged parents , pays all the bills ) , but does SHE herself wishes to have a little bit of financial freedom to buy clothes, bags, shoes etc.to feel acknowledged as a wife and mother and have control over a certain considerable sum of money. Greetings Conny
It's the LOVE of money that is the root of evil.
I think he can give her a stipen for her self, nothing's wrong with that. She's not able to do for herself at the moment, and even if, he should still give her something for her self. So hiw will she be able to get her own at this moment, beg him everytime? She's getting fed up.
If she takes him to court he will have to pay more.
If it is all about '50:50' then please do not expect me to treat or respect you like the king or the 'MAN' of the household. Gba be.
Nice video, came across this now
But what is this house wife we are making a hell out off especially in the western world where you have washing machine, hover, Electric cooker, baby cuddler.E.t.c Compared to your Africa counterparts back home. A lazy women is a lazy woman.
Nah, whites don’t have this kind of problem. The parents especially their grandparents even ask them if they need money or they just send without asking but our African family will not mind sucking the blood out of you because they gave birth to you.
Phrankleen both parties are wrong. The guy needs to support her. If he made an arrangement to give her money for upkeep and parents, he still needs to give it regardless. She needs to handle the issue with her siblings. If she has failed to handle it then the money should be cut off, by her and the husband, not just the husband. Also if she is a stay at home wife now, then the husband needs to give her something monthly. He needs to empower the woman, and cut out that feeling of bitterness. She is bitter because she is not being empowered by the hubby. This thing is complex sha.
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"i gave him two kids"who in this day and age says something that backward archaic and stupid..the kids are yours too!…
But she just gave birth and had medical condition, so how can she earn her own money and looks after herself financially? Right now she has a home and food on her table, nothing much different than what her parents was doing for her as a kid. Her husband is no different. Giving her a home and food. She is not greedy, she definitely must feel limited and caged unable to provide for herself and her family financially . Now she wish she can return the favour to her parents for the upbringing, but she can't because of being a Housewife, and her Husband was blessed with an excellent job. We are talking about £20000 a month. Whatever way the money is use, it use within the family. Now he is not giving the wife any money, I would understand if money were tight but he definitely have more than enough for himself alone. Now he stopped it, then what? Saving more and more money while your direct family is in need..! It's selfish.
That man is doing his best. She would have said he should be giving her the money to give her parents so that she can handle her family.
Me if I have that type of husband that is taking care of my parents I would so appreciative eh.
he should pay her an allowance.i have always paid my wife an allowance for the past 16 years.i noticed many people dont do that anyway.
Hi Lady if you don't want to lose your husband and a good man…. You better wise up fast something is better than nothing!!!! You can make your own money to make up the difference no man is perfect!!! But know when you got a good thing!!!!#staywoke
It is extortion. Mary is the only one we know that had a child without the help of a man. It hasnt happened since. No woman gives any man a child. It's a joint decision to bring a priceless baby to the world
Those siblings should be ashamed. You mean to tell me they can't fine a job? Come on this is ridiculous. These are the people back home that always say I can't fine a job you know is very had bla bla bla. But my friends back home can fine a job and you can't? Pure foolishness. They are looking for free money, just like some people in the UK on benefits but always blaming immigrants for not finding a job. There is always a blame when it comes to some people.
Me personally wouldn't ask my husband to send money from his own salary to sent to my parents. If he offered then I will take it, and that alone i find it hard to even take because deep down that isn't his responsibility, he has never ask me for money to send for his parents.
Once he's looking after his home and children and wife, I can't ask for anything else especially if he's a stand up husband, we ladies should be lucky to have men like this, because they are very hard to fine these days.
this is why u dont have to disclose how much you earn unless it'll effect your relationship adversely. people are feeling entitled
this man work hard to be earning the money is making.by her own statement he pays the bills and look after his children so for me thus what a real man does.her parents are not his responsiblity.she should rather focus on how to build her own fammily.if her husband drop dead today those siblings in nigeria wil find a way to survive regardless.
In this kind of relationship, the wife shouldn't have to ask for money from her husband. They should have sat down and agreed on how much the woman needs for the house upkeep. Women are the home managers and moreso she is a stay at home wife. A wise man that loves his home doesn't need to wait for the woman to ask for money before he makes it available. Put a fixed amount into the joint account or the woman's account monthly and the only thing that could cause a conversation should be "the money is not enough" in which case a comprise can be reached based on how much the husband have left to spare for household expenses
She is not entitled to his money, only to her time and her physical ability to go and make some for herself.
As for the whole extended family shenanigans, she knows the right thing and should stop pushing it.
What she needs to do is give up 'childrearing' and go back into the workforce or business and start hustling.
Some men don't mind shouldering all these responsibilities knowing that she is unable to because of 'childrearing. Since she needs more financial support than he can afford, they both need to work out their childrearing between them while she dusts herself up and enter back hustling mode to make her own money. Women! It is always important to secure your own bags and investments. Do not sentence yourself to an existence of childrearing only while expecting to lay claim to your husband's money. Everyone should equally partake in child-rearing and everyone should equally partake in making their own money.
When you are making your own money, you can use it to support whoever you like, or throw it into thin air if you wish or invest and grow it. But do not sentence yourself to an existence of depending on another all because of childrearing. Childrearing is a two people job. No awards on taking it all by yourself. After all, if you weren't submerged in childrearing, you will be hustling out there…hopefully with a healthy body. Wishing you the best.
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you nailed it!! money amplifies our personality. someone is giving her bad advice. also, to be honest, something has changed in their synergy and she needs to find it and get it back on track. As you eluded in episode 61, these two people male and female share the same bad habit that kills relationships in our community. we are not grateful for our spouse and these wealthy spouses are not understanding in communication. I also blame the husband of this woman and the wife of that man in episode 61. there are times you need to be real and direct with your spouse and not sugar quote crap. that has bred complacency and now they are victims of their own success and their own kindness.
I am savage. I am not bank rolling any woman parents or siblings. That money will go into my secret savings account. This man is a very good man. Most Naija babes are greedy and materialistic. This man should have checked her from the go. I would have. I dont have time for gold diggers at all – of any race. I am glad he cut her family off. Also like most Naija babes, she has friends giving her advise. Mumu woman!!
As you explained her excuses, all I kept thinking is she's trying to make herself a divorcee.I hope it's the hormones affecting her, but if she's as educated as her husband then she should be using her monthly allowance to invest and generate money as it is she will need to supplement the income anyways because as a mom she does need to be part time even after her health issues subside. If I was her i'd study during my time off work for another means of earning without having to do the everyday 9-5
The man does not owe her anything other than reciprocal love. He shouldn't routinely send money to her parents because they are not his parents. He may give her a token monthly and let her decide if to send her token to her wayward siblings
I'm sorry but I don't blame or even attribute any fault to the wife. The fault lies solely with the guy, why the hell he allowed how much he earns become a public knowledge i.e. his wife knowing!! That's recipe for disaster which he's now experiencing. It has nothing to do with love. I often joke with friends that If I should be fortunate enough to win the lottery, never would I disclose the exact amount to either the wife or relatives, I must ensure I only say I'd won a fifth of my winnings to reduce the high expectations of my family. In this case, you have a wife on one hand saying he's such a good man, pays the bills and look after her and the children, even extends goodwill gesture to her family!! what about his family, she never mentioned any of them?? This situation could easily have been reversed where you have the wife earning so much, but most common with the man earning more than the wife. Regarding her medical condition, although you never mentioned their country of abode but I suspect it's either here in UK or in Europe. In most of these countries, they have variety of benefits particularly if it's medical condition preventing one to work!! I hope most of the people that have watched and listened to this learn a lesson, whether you're a man or woman. Her reaction is natural considering where we come from and it's terrible. Thanks for sharing!!
This is so sad . This women is something 🙄🙄
She is very Ungratful! Her husband is Responsible as a Man. She is going to make it very difficult for her husband to save for the future of the family!
Am a lady, but I want to tell you Phrankleen, that the lady has a sense of entitlement, what's wrong with her?? how can she even allow her husband to be sending money to those hooligans back home, can't she look for a good relation to help her take care of her parents with the money her husband is sending? The husband is right by cutting that money, those her siblings should go get jobs, tell this lady to stop what she is doing and appreciate her husband otherwise, she will be the one to become a single mother cause the husband can decide to move on..
1) When you marry and start a family, you and your partner, and your issue is your highest priority. Especially, when you have siblings who aren't pulling their weight
2) The idea that working and living abroad makes you rich needs to die. Anyone who is a contractor is insecure, and can be terminated at any time. The £500 a day is not guaranteed, so caution is required.
3) When you decide to have children WITH someone, you are both responsible, and it is no basis for emotional blackmail.
4) As this woman was working, and if she was a permanent employee, and she should be entitled to sick pay, and/or maternity pay. Since her husband is paying the bills, and looking after her and the children, she could send that to her family, if she wants to.
5) The LOVE of Money is the Root of all evil. Money is a neutral mirror – it reflects and doubles what is in a person's character.
Conclusion: This woman needs to get her priorities straight,and stop trying to push her husband around. Her husband isn't Barclays Bank. He's a Contractor, and one step away from unemployment. Honestly, some people need a reality check. He's taking care of business, and only withdrew his support when he discovered that his wife's siblings were doing nothing to help their own parents. They are not his parents, and not his responsibility. He sent quite a lot of money, and now it's the siblings turn to stop being dead weight, and pull their weight. If she doesn't like it perhaps she could start using her own money? Or didn't she save any while she was working? The lack of hard facts from this woman suggests she isn't sharing the full picture.