A Man sharing household bills in the diaspora is less of a man ?
A Man sharing household bills in the diaspora is less of a man ?
A Man sharing household bills in the diaspora is less of a man ? this is a live stream that looks deeply into a very common topic within the black community which is the issue of men and women sharing bills 50/50 in the diaspora.
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Hello Bro, I came across your channel a few days ago. First, let me say you are doing a good job helping the diaspora. Personally, I'm an African American and this topic is very good and important. I have been married to an African American woman for over 35 years and we have split financial responsibilites and it has worked but there are many woman here born in America who believe that a man should pay all but should relative to how much money brought in. I do know brothers from Africa who have to deal with opposition from African women when and if they suggest an equal split. Sometimes I think it is cultural but those coming to the West have no understanding of Western culture and the economic reality of the West. I go to Africa every year and I see the mental narrative as different there between the men and women. I know some brothers here from Africa, in America, who only deal with African American women because of their financial independence. If women want to be treated equal then they should accept equal pay. With that being said, many of my Nigerian and Ghanian friends are divorcing because of the realities they have to deal with living in the West here. Peace, love, and Pan African unity.
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Men benefit from misogyny and patriarchy in the same way that Whxte people benefit from generations of institutionalized racism. Men have a responsibility to make things right in the way Whxte ppl have a responsibility to make things right.
Joint account, put both incomes in and decide together
What stops the woman from giving the man 75% of her earnings so he can run all their house affairs. Woman contributing to the bucket is not a taboo. Couples should learn to be on the same page.
Breaking her back 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Exceptional content
How true
Ooo this guy make me scream with laughter, : I used to clear all the bills 😂😂
Yeah….a good woman…..
If a man is Self employed, comes home all the time no Business or business is bad meanwhile he is spending on Side Chicks / girl friends. What have you to say ?
They scream all this men gotta pay all the bills but when women marry each other and adopt a child, it gets quiet. You don’t here, she is supposed to pay the bills because she is the masculine one in the relationship.
The sad truth is that most people come from broken families with toxic ways that they don’t actually know the real meaning of family to even start to build one. If money in a relationship is enough to start problems, don’t even start the relationship. Every woman screaming Oprah but can’t use her relationship as an example. All they care about is money. So sad that dating culture has been replaced with hook up culture. Family culture has been replaced with baby momma and baby father culture.
Franklin should be a comedian! The last 30 mins was blast of comedy and reality. If you know! Then you know fam!!🤣🤣🤣🤣
Franklin killing me with uncle vibes and and old timers stories
Fuck that! We are splitting the bills period! Unless I earn significantly more than you, I will pay a higher percentage. This is the west not africa
All these noise about house chore by women I don't get it. It's hugely exaggerated. As Nigerian men before we married, we did our house chores and bla bla bla. It's not even that hard. In my house am newly married to my IGBO queen. We do everything together depending on who is able at every point in time. What's there in washing plates and washing dishes and sweeping and bla bla bla bla. It's much drama about nothing
Love your topics but please don't waste energy responding to comments that infuriates you while talking …. just keep the flow bro and the ones that want to learn will learn the life changing tips from all this topics. Money is a major issue with couples and a lot don't ever ask how this Nigerian men get the extra cash to support the family and the excesses of their women… My aged mother probably understands money coming into the family than the bulk of slay mamas looking for sugar daddies in the name of husband's.
Love your break down ❤️ sharing this info.
I have to say this is a good one, you opened up Pandora’s box. My perspective as an African American women that grew up in a house hold that my dad was the bread winner and he had a resentment about my mom staying home, but she raised his 5 kids virtually alone, while he was in the streets and she had part time work but managed to save money ( anyway another story for another time) men really want to be careful with the 50/50 because unless they are willing to cook, clean and manage a house hold full of kids with doctors visits , up all night with sick kids, home work and you expect the wife to feel sexy and be ready for attention! And you created a 50/50 financial environment! You have turned the relationship into a room mate situation! I definitely ain’t feeling you! As much as you want to say 50/50 is fare. A woman has never had it like that. She always has to put more into the family house hold! Hell even female animal will always pick the fittest male!
Men and women always have different roles in life!
But I do agree there are some high power black women in America including my daughter and she pays all the bills and her husband takes care of the kids! I’m not mad at that because it’s more important to have a parent taking care of their children instead of a possible weirdo!
Also my Son’s wife is the bread winner and I taught him how to cook and clean better than any woman. He will never not have survival skills or have to give his kids to a Mean aunty to raise! Because he has amazing skills! Also I taught my son if he wants a family he needs his finances in order! Don’t take on that big of a responsibility if you can’t handle it!
Some good men like that in America, their women eventually kicked them out and leave them with nothing.
Not all men are good, there are bad ones too who do not want to work and pay bills once they discover that they have a hard working woman.
Frankleen, my friends and i had a blast, with this topic. …….We laughed a lot…..
Otito oro, towun terin. Bless you.
I think every human relationship should be fundamentally fair to the two major players. …….
When the balance shifts, common sense must be applied according to the specific variables. ……
Be Positive and practical …………
God bless you Phrankleen for your honesty and objective view of issues
50/50 is not fair. If A and B are married, A earns 10 000 and B earns 20000 50% is 15000 so A should contribute 5 k and B 10k because they are not even in the same tax bracket. Also the woman will most likely loose wages or drop It entirely for all the times she will be on mat leave. That should be taken into account.
Bother!!!! You use the phrase “LOGICAL REASONING”. Nowadays people just open their mouth before thinking. Thanks Bro for reminding people there is something called LOGIC!
Thank you brother for your lovely advice, God bless
It’s simple logic. There’s no love in the relationship. If I love you, why will I watch you stress for all the bills when I can assist? Shouldn’t it be a collective effort to care for the family you created? What am I really doing with my own money that I’m keeping aside? It’s just pure wickedness. We women need to do better.
Your right it needs to be discussion on how to co exist in a relationship. Sometime women can do to much trying to empress the man. Them get to overwhelmed an blame the man hes taking her for granted. No the problem you started off wrong trying to be superwoman, let it known from up front your strengths and weaknesses
I love your rational way of thinking.
Totally disagree! Men are more controlling, feel more comfortable and confident when they earn more than their partner. If the woman earns more then he gets sensitive especially if he's an egomaniac. Most happy marriages have the man earning more, taking care of his family while the woman takes care of the family's domestics with the man helping from time to time.
Bro though my channel name is David that's my son name. Am Lisa living in Germany Berlin over a decade and experience some the points you said. Mennnn I pray for a healthy african man to marry
There’s lots of relationships where women earn more than the man. I disagree with you that men don’t act controlling when they earn more because they definitely do.
I think if there’s a couple and no children and both work full-time, then bills should be split 50/50 but if there’s children involved, as most women take responsibility for housework and childcare, they tend to work part-time. Therefore, they will earn less and therefore, can’t contribute 50/50. Also, in some situations, the couple decide that the man goes out to work and the woman stays at home ( not sitting at home watching TV but contributing in other ways besides financially). I think everyone has to do what’s best for their households.
People have 12 children and live less as basic life and buy cheaper food eat less . In the future thing we been better.
Frankleen you're too much, as a matter of fact kind of a guy, I appreciate that in you. I commend you for this topic, keep up the great work.
Same women when past their prime will spend millions trying to keep a man that ain’t ready to commit . My take as an African is that as a man make sure you play your role in caring for your family to the best of your ability irrespective of what you earn, an appreciative woman will respect and love you knowing fully well that you could do more if you earn more.
A man need to take charge and no matter how counter chorus your woman is she will definitely end up respecting your tenacity.
Women can be many things when it comes to relationship.
You are so right about upbringing…i never saw my dad in the kitchen and my mum's final words were take care of your husbands 🤣 i said how about the other way round for a change. Thank God, i have been able to let my husband into the kitchen o, he wanted splitting bills when we got married in Nigeria! Eewo! However we were able to work it out. My son in the diaspora now knows to help his wife out and i am so glad i was able to unlearn what i grew up with. He has a lovely and peaceful home.
Black Women should buy land and roommate with each other since Males want 50/50 on everything 🤷🏾♀️
I really need help because I'm mentally and emotionally stressed. I've started having mental health issues and each time I complain about his attitude he starts shouting and laughing or he will just go out and come back any time he likes
I have a man who leaves all the bills for me to pay including the household chores and when I tell him to atleast assist me with buying of some foodstuffs which I give him my money to buy and when he does few times he starts complaining that I should be the one to do everything, pay the bills, household chores and including paying for food items with my money. I'm so stressed emotionally. Please what can I do
Are you married
a marriage is the only war whereby you are sleeping with the enemy, have a nice day.. i still believe in 50/50 on everything and you must also think of creating wealth for the union or else the marriage is invalid & doomed from the start if you must sleep with one eye open… walk away gracefully and peacefully…. a marriage isn't all about bills, there's a bigger picture to every union, "creating & carving a future"
Bro u making sense God Bless you for ur wisdom
I love your objectivity!
Hello phrankleen. I really appreciate men like you,but they’re not common most women earn more than men. I don’t see anything wrong in women supporting household.like I said earlier men like you that takes care of the household very few in diaspora
That is why we never learn pls brother keep talking
That strong Nigerian accent always gets me cracking 😂🤣😂. Since most folks are & will always be in the 99%, bills have to be shared according to income not sex. African women are incredibly educated & have high incomes, the narrative that regular men should pay all the bills is simply primitive. Financial discussions should be held weekly, needs to be part & parcel of modern African culture.