“It's Complicated”: Black Mothers & Daughters #blackwomen #blackmentalhealth

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1. Thank you ladies
   It’s so good to know that I’m not alone. I can relate to each fact that was shared. However, my situation is extremely diddferent. I always say that I grew up in an abusive household.
   Very debilitating even till this day. I am number four of twelve and we range in age 65-81’.
   God is my therapist.

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2. So much of the conflict centers on generational opportunities that leads to loss of power and control issues for older generations.

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3. Mothers and Daughters its time to Seek Hidden Wisdom. Start with the man Charles Pages who invented the Air ⚓ Ship and Stagecoach Mary between those two we can figure out how to become US by Us for US through The Source of Life and Love

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4. Thank you for this panel of beautiful women discussing this delicate topic. I came to these realizations about my mother in my mid-thirties and have gone NC. That decision is never made lightly and to anyone trying to shame you for doing so, you don’t owe them an explanation for your desire for peace. Thank you again for this topic! ❤

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5. This was a great panel. Please advise everyone to double check to ensure their website links are working correctly. ❤

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6. I wish I would have caught this live. I wonder – especially if some on the panel had children at young ages – how their relationships are with their daughters. My mother had my sisters at 19 and 21. I was born when she was going on 36. Her husband (our father) was an alcoholic…would work all week then drink and gamble the money away. I was 2 when my mom left him and was raised totally different. My sister started using the word narcissistic with our mother when she (my sister) turned around 65. She was a daddy's girl and I've never heard her speak ill of our father. When she speaks of our mother, it's as if she had this heavy burden to keep things clean (to this day, she says that cleaning makes her feel good). From my mother's perspective, she seemed to stay busy. So now, my sister feels that my mother (who's in her late 80s) is a narcissist and has pulled away. It's especially sad because my sister has been through a lot (lost her only child to gun violence, experienced rape, retired from a toxic job at 30 years, ex husband was emotionally abusive and had a baby on her) and she refused therapy….rather, she's using marijuana and beer to calm and soothe herself. She's been mean at times (since my nephew's death coming up on 25 years ago). Her grandchildren (who are now in their 20s) says that she's been going off on them (off and on) for years. All that to say, I get what the panel is saying, I just really hope that it stops with their moms and that it's not unknowingly carried on. I didn't experience (and my oldest sister didn't seem to experience either) what my sister's truth is, but I've noticed with her grandchildren, if they do not do what she expects, she goes off. And guess what I do? I tell my great-niece and nephew "keep up with your grandmother."

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7. Wow! Great discussion. I never heard of soul cycles and realized I made huge changes in my life around the ages she mentioned. I'm highly anticipating part 2!

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8. The timing of this was perfect! I was just thinking about how I wish I had a supportive mom because I can't tell her anything about my moves since she will say negative instead of positive things.

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9. Thank the panel for sharing their experiences…Very good discussion…shared info with my mother and she immediately became defensive…I hope that she will watch on her own…I am not in a family that is easy to completely cut out of my life, but I'm determined to have the life that my highest self was created to live ❤

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10. wow thank you all for addressing this issue

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