Why I Stopped Judging Black Men Who Date Outside Their Race…
Why I Stopped Judging Black Men Who Date Outside Their Race…
Why I Stopped Judging Black Men Who Date Outside Their Race…
I open up about my personal journey. As a younger woman, I found myself judging Black men who chose to date outside their race. I did not care to understand their point of view but made a lot of preconceived notions. After having heard their experiences, I understand that I was…
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Somewhere there should be an EXTREMELY proud father. Props sis. Being a student of Astrology is the best insurance against bad relationships. You’re welcome.
A lot of "our" women are damaged… Honestly i tribute it to systemic and systematic oppression and marginalized and the intentional destruction of black communities… we should take accountability and I as a black person have personally decided to mentor black children because many have no good parents. It's reality but I will use my time to do what I can instead of complaining. Also I follow laws that systematically oppress non whites… anywayssss I say that to say a lot are socialized to be self deprecative. A lot are socially engineered to accept and actually gravitate towards self destruction…. it's by design people . Yes absolutely you can navigate and choose to do better but come on in Chicago it's easier to get a gun than a high school education… anyways just wanted to say white supremacy is playing chest while we playing checkers…. but the point is I understand there is a shortage of marriageable black people on both genders. Soo yes it's possible to get fed up and decide to leave the collective, community , women… but please remember in the law of confirmation bias. Let me continue with my point… white wooman commit a lot of crimes during slavery n often even more savage than the white man… but to finish date who you want… just know that the top tier black man and women are having a mass exodus… did you know ppl with less education (high school) have 5 children where master educated are having 1 child… as far as I see the black community is far gone. I don't think anyone should feel badly about dating who you love because no one trying to play social justice warrior with their life
Why would you ever do that in the first place. You maried a non FBA man. A man whose ancestors were not slaves.
First man doesn't speak for me
As a black man, I find black women gorgeous, but we can’t act like a good amount of eligible black women aren’t overweight and obese. If they’re not, they act like sexy red or the city girls, it’s so hard to find a young professional black woman out here. I’m moving from Tampa to silver spring in a year, I hope my experience there is a lot different.
WHY DO BLACK WOMEN WEAR THE FAKEASS WIGS? ARE THEY ASHAMED OF THEIR TRUE SELVES?
Cant blame white men or culture..that black guys will pathetically prefer anybody before a black woman
BW LEAVE NO CHOICES
If it didn't bother you, you wouldn't talk about it. Pandering to lying Black men who are color struck and caught up in internalized anti-Black racism is not it. They still don't like you. So, why are you pandering to them?
Black men simply lie about why they date outside of their race. I grew up around Black men involved in IR unions. I have heard the stories and I have witnessed what they do in those relationships. Black men, in general, lie about why they date women of other races. It has nothing to do with culture, attitude, or anything else. It has everything to do with their acceptance of the white beauty standard and viewing white women as a status symbol and come up. It is coupled with their anti-Black racism they have been dealing with all of their life. How do I know this, because the same things they complain about what Black women do, they will tolerate it, accept it, and deal with it when the woman is white or of another race! . I know plenty of stories of Black men enduring racism, being finessed out of their money, called racial slurs, beaten on, falsely accused and outright disrespected by White women and others and they take it and grin with it with all smiles.
You never had to right to judge in the first place. Literally making up stuff about an individual because he's not with a women that looks like you. I hope you hear the irony. That same attitude is what keeps BW single. Hell can you even consider BM sh*tting BW as hate? They're dumbing on men for wearing suits these days.
My favorite quote taught to me as a very young man!
“You can lose a lot of money chasing after & getting women, but you will lose very few women chasing after & getting money ! 🔥👀🔥
It is like an amazing miracle to actually see and hear a modern BW speaking on & about this much truth and wisdom concerning BM & BW ! This is an amazing channel and content creator!
Please protect, support and cherish Chez Charde’ by any means necessary!!! ❤️❤️❤️
So you judged black women for dating out, but you don't do it for the passport bros who tricks?🤔What kind of hypocritical mess is this.
I don't care if blkw date so called out, more power 2 them. Living in 🇸🇪 I have delt we 2 blkw and they were both horrible. In my own personal experiences, I simply no longer believe that blk men and women are not better for each other due to their being blk, if anything, I was worse off with blk females.
Yall make me question who wanted the segregated south. Because it sounds like it was black women. White men can never say the things you all say about race today. Y'all don't realize your own racism
6:30 this insane insecurity black women have is extremely unattractive.
4:00 when will y'all stop taking everything personally? You don't like a dude, he dates another race of woman, and now, it's a personal afront to your entire race?
4:00 you had to see how many black women, black SUBURBAN women, who never had any hood drama, still go after thugs, before you accepted, black women have a type.
So you don't like me, but not only that, no one else can like me. And these black women that don't like me, and don't want to see me happy with anyone else, Love me. 😂😂😂😢.
I think it's great the way things are just like water following the path of the lease resistance, be feminist not mad, but happy life has many pathways and don't date because of color do it to be happy and color doesn't always do.
The culture of judgement of interracial dating extends past heterosexual relationships as well. Black masculinity is also completely destroyed when they're gay, and a lot won't come out–especially if they're into white guys. I've dated many, but I stopped dating DL men (no matter what race) because it only leads to problems. I've also dated gay black men whose families didn't care–as long as they don't date white men. That's insane to me. If my white family said I couldn't date a man of color I would never speak to them again. This not being a 2 way street is INSANE.
The human race consists of different shades of color.
They don’t understand the black culture
I no you don't want to here this white woman only date black men because they think every black man has got a bbc
Most of yall are trash 90 percent at minimum 😂😂😂😂
As a black man who recently started dating out. Ill say this
Im 38 i work in tech and i have no kids, make a great living and was raised in a two parent home.
Sisters do NOT want solid, hardworking, no drama men until they have already had terrible experiences and are already mothers by those experiences
Now that im looking for a wife. I NEVER see sisters
However you know who i see when im at the gym at 6 am?
White girls, latinas, Asians every single morning. And they're so friendly
When im at conferences guess who i see?
When i go to the happy hours that arent loud and ratchet, guess who i see?
Yet as a black man im supposed to go out of my way to find a woman who carries baggage i don't have and im supposed to happily accept that, just because we're the same race?
Yall dont care why black men prefer white women, yall just feel rejected and lash out because of that, as usual. You can use all the fancy studies and such that you want, the bottom line is that it only bothers you because you feel rejected by someone else's preferences not matching you.
I think we should all jus stop talkking and just logout and focus on being a good person, a wholistic person. There really is no point with all the jabber now.
Black women hate me. no hope
Ive used the blk app for 7 years and approached 400+ in person
Dr Umar would like to have a word
Chez, are you going to respect BW who date outside of our race? 🤔
As a Light Skin, Black man. JUST imagine how most black women, treated me. Advantage, yet a curse. BUT once I did this thing called, Grow up. I no longer chose 100% my race, as that is only 18% of America. So out of that small 18%, I have to choose a woman, who is not overweight, 80%.. So that leaves 20black women, out of 100 black women. OUT of that 20, is she tall, short. Is she Ghetto or Suburban. Graduate highschool, college? SO like 3-4 out of all black women, make the cut.
THEN we get to some serious questions. OUT of 4 black women, who are not overweight, has graduated HS, no kids. Which one had dad in their life? Cause, no dad in their life, means they have never scene a successful relationship. NO need to be the first on that.
Wont even ask about single moms.. The least desirable. BLACK WOMEN, the only females on the planet, that have zero respect of their own men. Where is dad? Granddad?
Dr. Umar isn't going to like this…😅
I’m honestly not upset when they date other women, it’s literally the trash taking itself out. I get happy when I see it now. So other women can now see what we’ve been going through. Women of all races are unhappy with black men and their ignorance and self hatred.
Regardless of anything not dating an entire race of women because of an experience that happened to them as a child is IGNORANT. Plenty of black women gave had negative experiences with black men throughout childhood and adulthood but never disrespected their entire lineage of men. It’s still not an excuse. It’s insecurity at the end of the day.
As a 6 foot fully bearded lightskin black man, nigga’s kweenz might not be interested, but these arab chicks? 😮💨🤍
So many of us have been so easily distracted and emotionally led by elite controlled social media. Listen carefully. We have lost the invisible battling ago. We are about to have bigger problems than who we are dating. Soon, all we will be worried about will be our survival.
As black man in his 40s who, I believe have it together both financially, physically, spiritually, son graduates HS this year, no drama, etc……I see lately I'm getting a lot more attention from women outside the black race. I love black women but it seems many don't care for a guy thay has his stuff together.
As a Black Man, who prefers that Black date marry and breed Black for socioeconomic and political reasons, I have always been vehemently against actually judging or demanding those who dont, it is not my business to tell a person why they are dating outside of their race, or tell them that they are some kind of traitor, or foist on them some kind of responsibility, or accuse them of some degree of self hatred, no matter if it exists or not.
My only genuine demand is that if them dating out, don't spit back into black folks business to denigrate them. And I think that's been the difference….because my whole life I've heard Women say this about Black Men who date out "If you want to date out date out, just dont disrespect Black Women" and then they engage in disrespecting that man and his woman every chance they get, until he defends his woman, only for them to point at the man and claim victim in the exchanges.
If that non black person is the one who genuinely loves you and treats you the way you want to be treated, you better stay there and not play games because of what outsiders have to say.
My Japanese wife and I have been together for a little over 15 years and married for 14.
I left the USA well before the "Passport Bro" hashtag became much to do about nothing.
Considering that I had never dated any woman (much less a BW) throughout my entire high school and college careers, I didn't have the prerequisite positive or negative relationship experiences often used to explain marriage to a non-BW.
BW and every other woman that wasn't the woman I had fallen in love with, weren't even afterthoughts in my mind.
I'm all for people exercising their peace with whomever they so choose.
Good know I wish you would stop judging bw who have a preference for nonbm
A LOT OF BLACK WOMEN BEEN DATING OUTSIDE THEIR RACE FOR A LONG TIME.
You have to create a fake persona to date sisters. It’s called “game”.
I wish more of our sistas would understand men like VARIETY. I've always been attracted to WOMEN, no particular color or background. I've dated Black, Asian and latina. A man's choice to date out is almost never a personal slight to women of his own race in my observation .Even though it's taken that way.
@1:15 Wrong, it’s not more often than the case. It’s way rare as the data says so. BM don’t want to be Mr. Cartwright.
Its ok… we're NOT mad at you. We got super overlooked. Those bitter shaming tactics will sting BW later on. Better to understand the struggle of dating for us good guys.. but we pivoted already. And doing mighty well for ourselves 🤷🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️