The Lack of Awareness for Emotional Well Being by African Parents [Part 2] // Episode 100
The Lack of Awareness for Emotional Well Being by African Parents [Part 2] // Episode 100
Watch Part 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZicdXWK-T_0
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SAY IT LIKE IT IS…
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I’m not even for punishment.
These 2 videos have been quite cathartic, I've been in a position where I was quite isolated and couldn't speak to anyone about this
Many African parents are manipulative narcissistic bullies. Even when disagree with them in a respectful manner, they take it as a threat and their egos can't handle the fact that they are wrong about something.
Just because your parents gave birth to you doesn’t mean they have all it takes .makes sense to some extent great video phrakleen ❤️
“Sometimes you are actually making a demand from someone, whom themselves haven’t got a clue. You see the fact that somebody gave birth to us doesn’t necessarily mean they have all it takes”. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
If only my mother and father could hear you! A lot of parents lack emotional intelligence and are very stunted. There’s a huge disconnect and vital intimacy that kids lack with their own parents!
A lot of African immigrant parents transfer their child upbringing into their kids and with it comes with the trauma. My mother is co-dependent and my father narcissistic.
Living their lives through the child- a ma jere omo (unrealistic expectation).
Religion plays a major, role and i wonder why you skirt around this major topic. My parents know that my life is about isese. I don't do churches or all that rubbish. aborisa ni mi. You can keep your Jesus and God to your europanized nigerian people.
This is very very simple. Africans within this generation (30-45) still have unrealistic expectations of their parents (60-75) period. If you are still looking to your Europeanized African parents for guidance, you are lost!!
the words "am sorry " isn't stressful to say but can relieves stress. i grew up inculcated by my parents through their example. Saying am sorry is important as the relationship (family). Sometimes we just have to let go unnecessary ego. Be mindful,children turn to copy what they see often. when u apologize to them so do they. As African parents lets learn to accept our weaknesses and shortcomings even if its told by a child. we are fallible in nature. its strength not a weakness.
Children are an investment in Asia, Mideast and Africa!!! However, economic and social mutation put pressure on this value across the world!! It won't survive!!
African parents have no clue because they were also brought up that way…clueless!
Inability to empathize because of their cultural context. They come from a different societal structure which is more group level based and the west is very individualistic so that contrast between our children that grow up here vs our parents that grew up in africa means even if they talk about the same things, such as stress or university or depression they don't mean the same intensity. To our parents things are better and better means that you don't have even a right to express distataste but of course they don't recognize that we don't have that same experience as them.
Been trying to raise awareness about this lately. Thanks for bringing this to light
Depression is a sickness of mind ,heart and the head .very difficult to cure.
English translations please.
Spot on. Nigerian parents want total and complete control.
You can’t give what you don’t have 🙏🏼
African-American families and Nigerian families seem very similar. There's definitely a cultural connection
Interesting clip, I couldn’t agree more with what you and Yewande have echoed in this clip. I think the problem with a lot of Nigerian parents is this: “They simply refuse to learn, and this stems from their own upbringing by sometimes uneducated parents and extended relatives, which was the norm during their time”. The lesson for this generation of parents is to be more broad minded and always lend a listening ear to your children, so that when your children become adults, they can have a robust relationship with you based on love and mutual respect.
Hello Mr Phrankleen, thanks for this super and important topic. Most of the issues we have as an African, if not all, stems from low emotional awareness. A lot of the anger, depression and sometimes the hate we project unto others are really the signs of not being heard or listens to, so most people just bottle up and hope the issues will just vanish like magic.But this is not the case, as we are all human beings with our own unique thought and feelings which are actually a form of energy. You cannot give what you don't have! But all the same, I still believe most African parent meant good for their children.They are just doing it wrongly, because they do not know better. Nigerians will probably be the best parents if they are forced to go to school of parentings, but there is no such school. So, blame the society for having schools for everything on earth, but none on how to raise human children for better world. Solutions: As a parent, show love, listens, ask questions., be approachable and comfortable for your children to be around with you,. do things together with your children, like watching movie without criticizing. Promote a good atmosphere where children are more open to express and be themselves.
They compare you, curse you basically batter you mentally. They have no clue
Okay we just got a thumbs down from an African Dad/mom tho 😂
from my experience foreign parents are the masters of manipulation😠😠
Word !!! Most of our parents want to live life through us their children .
Phranklin is rare LOL. A lot of people are stuck in their own ways and also because they do not know any different. We sometimes forget to ask what do I want?. Not what does my family and friends want. Phranklin it has been found that having a spiritual practice positively influence improves quality of life but everything in life is Balance
Hi it they mindset!! Parents need to understand kids have a voice!! Once they because an Adults!! It's up to them to live there life's….. You should just be giving them good advice I have a 36 and 34 kid's yes kid's. .. but I let live they life I just listen advice and support them… not contring and black maling my kids.nope…
You would have thought the dad would have learnt from his mistake and get some senses at his age they also want to live their live through you