Deadbeat African Parents wanting Old Age Benefits // SAY IT LIKE IT IS – Ep 64
Deadbeat African Parents wanting Old Age Benefits // SAY IT LIKE IT IS – Ep 64
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Unfortunately the word"sorry" is not in the vocublary of many African parents (deadbeats)… instead they turn to emotional blackmail inform of curses etc…damn…you can reap what you sow!
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Phrankleen don't mind those silly fresh African people.. Again I said fresh/narrow minded clowns.. They also always say to me.. Ooh you don't talk about Nigeria this that and the other… That means you don't love their country…
Absolutely nonsense, I leave them to their nonsense.. I don't even respond to their stupendous conditioning
my father has 7 kids with 5 different women. i was raised by my mum and some family members. i lived in Ghana till i was almost 11 years and came to germany. now i am 26 and the oldest from his kids, cause my 30 years old bro died. this man was never there and even when i came to germany he tried to used me to get my mum to bring him to germany. like 1 year ago i told him how i feel and he went to tell my uncles i was rude. now one of my uncles low-key said i should take care of him. hahhahahah hell to the naw.
Good morning Pastor peace and blessings to you and your family, Sir, please know that we Jewish African American here in the USA have same issue,,,,my Dad said and have done same thing brothers and sisters are asking you about. Because of the Love I received from The Most High,,I forgave both Mom and Dad and family members. These people for what ever reason,put their own needs before everyone. Even the children that they made with these women. I don't understand,,,
Mr. Phranleen……..that fire…..tell them to take several seats.
According to my African father, African fathers abandon their kids after a separation because providing for their kids would mean supporting the mother and her new man lol. I haven’t seen my father in almost 20 years… he’s never been there and his reasoning was that.
The family are Muslim the man getting another woman is not a problem because when you marry a Muslim man then be at alert that he may surprise the first wife. Abandoning the first family is not what his religion recommend. And for him at old age to become a resident in England simply means he has right of abode in England. He never worked in England but because he must have studied in England in the late fifties to sixties all those who studied in England who are of the English empire have that right so he is using that right to claim benefits. The first children owe him nothing they don't have to give him anything let them take care of their mother and let his new family takes care of him..they too don't have to if he is in England he is getting paid. He should not expect what he didn't contribute to to now give him money. Let the gods judge him.
OMG! That's exactly what I'm going through now
That parent is shameful. She owes him nothing but the love of God.
so true i had a dead beat dad that was never around growing up, when we became of age he expected us to come looking for him, if a parent was not around from the get go then why would i want a relationship when i do not need my backside wiped he can get lost
This happens in the African-American community as well.
Phrankleen, as a public figure try not to let viewers get under your skin. The more popular you get, the more trolls and abuse you’ll get. It’s always better to keep a straight and happy face in the face of adversity. There’ll be a lot more annoying comments in the nearest future.
She should forgive her dad and not hold grudges and leave him to God
Thank you jare
That's the thing in the African community.The relationship parents have with their kids is very important.If you don't bring your child up well the way you should do as a parent,it will be very difficult for the child to come back to you in difficult times or happy times.Please parents play your role as a parent and the child will automatically play his/her role.Parenting is hard shaaa
Girl he a fake ass man! As for your sister asking for MONEY! Is taking the PISS!!!!! I would have nothing to do with his useless ASS Man sorry BOY………SMT
The part I don’t like is when people will now sit you down and start saying no matter what your parent (mother or father) did, they’re still your parent(s) and you must forgive them because they gave you life. If not for them you won’t be alive! Really?! Yeah gave me life alright….to make me suffer for nothing!
First nobody begged them to give me life. If they didn’t give me life I wouldn’t exist period! Ain’t like as if there’s a ton of unborn children in heaven jumping up and down, screaming “me me me, pick me, I want to be born.” Abi when nor be say na competition to enter person bele!
That said, I was blessed to have both my parents in the picture and my Dad particularly spoiled us.
Now in a situation where it is intentional as in because the mother “offended” the dad, and he decides to take it out on the children, no way. I will sever all relations with that kind of person. But there are some situations where some parents are simply helpless. Example: Dad chases mom out and she doesn’t have the financial or emotional ability to take care of the children and has to leave them with dad. I’ve seen some children resent such parent for leaving them behind. My take on such is “look you have to realize that your mom did what she felt was in your best interest at that time also factoring in her mental/socioeconomic status at that time.”
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They are not asking for funds bcos he’s ill or had a terrible accident or something similar….they are asking for money to celebrate his birthday,seriously? How many birthdays of theirs did he participate in talk less of contributing ? This is completely senseless to me.
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Thank you Sir, for your care and respect for your clients. And I also respect your level , of emotional consideration for people that are being oppressed by tradition and parents ! You are really healing wounds. More wisdom Sir.
This applies to all African relatives, not just parents. Siblings too often believe that you should put up with bad behaviour just because they are your siblings. Sadly, too many people put up with relatives they should have let go of years ago, out of fear. You are spot on when you advice people to 'Free themselves from mental slavery'. I have had to let go of close family members. It was the only way to achieve peace of mind. Our time here on earth is too precious to be wasted on people who are preventing us from reaching our full potential and the level of growth God intended for us.
Some of these parents never know they'll get old someday. In their cowardy hearts, they sit back and reasure themselves that the child/ren will come looking for them when the time arises.
Imagine deliberately thinking they are punishing the woman by not contributing to their child/ren lives and missing out on all the developmental stages?
My take on this subject is; if a parent go about populating the earth from point A to point B and choose to be there for a few, I feel that such parent must have saved so much over the years and not expect any dime from the child/ren they did not invest in. Why appear out of nowhere to announce yourself as a parent over 'already made' and grown men and women whom you were supposed to be there for over the years? Such child/ren are not obligated to such parents upkeep.
The child/ren may be kind enough to introduce them as biological parents (in the case of a female) and/ sperm donors ( in the case of a male) if the child/ren so chose, and not to take them on as their responsibility.
I don't necessarily see why people should reap where they did not sow. Children can also be provoked to the point that they confidently and officially 'Curse' such failed parent. I rest my case.
Why would the eldest even think of such a thing when their father wasn't their for them when they were growing up? It doesn't make sense. And she is right not to contribute for the father's birthday. But in this story it wasn't even the father that was requesting for her contribution. The man is not to blame but the eldest who even thought of it.
The content of this video resonates and I can relate. I didn't communicate with my father for over a decade. During my journey of enlightenment I realised I was doing myself a dis-service disconnecting from my Father. I had to learn to forgive, heal and ponder alot. On my journey of enlightenment I was seeking to understand myself and I found myself reconnecting to a father that I consciously disconnected from – You can not run away from Self. My advise to anyone affected by content shared in this video is to find healing. Honouring your parents irrespective of your experience is crucial in African culture or most cultures of the world (from a metaphysical/esoteric perspective). You may not fathom but I do….. seek clarity, I highlight!!! things don't just happen…. if you embark on the journey of self it will become clear why things happen the way it did. I do what is within my capacity for my parents, believe me I have a STORY. If you're still hurting you need to address all underlying issues and be whole for history to not repeat itself. Sending anyone affected massive oceans of light and love. I believe if i can do it, you can. I am of yoruba heritage and in my 40's.
This seems like a Universal problem among our people wherever we are.
Who cares about their curses, I don't care about sentiments, you are not there as a parent l don't know you
I swear to God if my father (never met the man) comes to me talking about am your father you have to respect me blah blah and you need to give me money, the only money I would spend on him is to pay the grave diggers after he dies to make sure that coffin is in the ground for a piece of shit he is.
Thank you for serving that guy right re RUGA. It's that "entitlement culture" rearing its head again. Some people think you owe them every information just because you have put yourself out there to provide quality information. Show some appreciation and make a polite request if you want something. These are the kind of people that mess things up for the good ones!
Just gat time to watch this, thanks phrank for lifting terrible burden off people. You know this is the genesis of unhappiness that is going on in so many homes. Husbands craving for the love that was deny by their mother and wife craving for the love deny by their father. The bitterness and instability of homes today is because of the vacuum of love and affection that was left in innocent children by selfish parents
This is the same with my father however he was around but more concerned about his siblings kids than us. Now whenever we are told he is sick we just say Ooh sorry, how are the chickens,but when it's our mum we do everything in our power to make sure she is OK and she has everything she needs Now our father is feeling the heat of what he was doing .The kids he was concerned about do not even want to hear about him.
You are always on point. I have tried so much to hate you but couldn’t.
This is my story.
Let her not dare to contribute rather assist someone needy.xxx
First time thanks
A lot of sad memories growing up. My dad don't even know my age. Left us and didn't look back.
And now that we have become successful, if you give him 100,000. He will tell you its an insult. He only wants millions. Anytime he is asking for money the man only wants millions😟😟.
Bro ,millions love your contents.. don't let few trolls get in the way… salute👍🏼
The people who disliked this video are people who have abandoned their kids…na dem!